Need help with depression about losing an adoption fight with family?
Ok so please do not judge.. I had four kids taken away from me because I was young and wasn't able at that time fully take care of them and my Dads' family had better lawyers than me so they won the adoption case. But the family that has adopted them has been asses excuse my language and has told me to NEVER think about getting them back, talking to them, or see them again. I haven't seen them since April of 2008 and they are acting like this towards my parents as well so they can't even see or talk to them.
What can I do? Please do not put anything judgemental. I just need someone to help me through this time. FYI: It will never get better, I know that, but just need someone to talk to about this.
Thanks!
They never gave me a chance to do anything they basically threw the papers at me and told me to sign or if I didn't they were going to make sure every child I had would be taken away. Yes CPS was involved because they were trying to adopt them and me and my parents tried to stop them, so they made up lies about me, the worse lies u could think of and of course the judge went for them and gave them my kids. They were 5, 4, 2, and 4 months old.
And thanks I am trying to be but every since this has happened it has ripped my heart out cause I know that I will never get to see them unless I do something illegal. So basically the only way I will be able to ever see or talk to them is if they come find me and decide to come with me :(
I 'm praying for you & your kids to be reunited SOONER, rather than later ! :-)
Patrick 's b-mom,
Lori L.
I don't believe there's anything you can do legally. No judgement here and sorry for your losses. The only hope I can give you is that once they are 18 there's no way they can stop you from having a relationship with them.
Thanks everyone! I haven't been able to find anyone to talk to about this, well not anyone that actually knows what I am talking about that doesn't try to make it about themselves like my family.
If you need someone to talk to you can PM me. I went through something similar as far as CPS goes but I also did choose adoption for my kids and they are with a great family. It is hard to handle I do know believe me but you can and will make it through this long journey. I am still going through mine as far as grieving and I believe I will never be whole again till my children are back in my arms. I'm sure you feel the same.
Quoting asmcc8780:They never gave me a chance to do anything they basically threw the papers at me and told me to sign or if I didn't they were going to make sure every child I had would be taken away. Yes CPS was involved because they were trying to adopt them and me and my parents tried to stop them, so they made up lies about me, the worse lies u could think of and of course the judge went for them and gave them my kids. They were 5, 4, 2, and 4 months old.
And thanks I am trying to be but every since this has happened it has ripped my heart out cause I know that I will never get to see them unless I do something illegal. So basically the only way I will be able to ever see or talk to them is if they come find me and decide to come with me :(
There isn't anything you can do since when they were adopted you lost your legal rights to the kids. It's too bad the adoptive parents are doing this. Of course we don't know the whole story.
You are going to have to wait until they are 18, it's a sad situation. Does it get better, no, does it get different and easier to cope, yes I believe it does. Is reunion a cure all, no it is not. Gets some counseling. It really helped me.
Good news for all.
- asmcc8780
on Feb. 10, 2013 at 10:34 PM