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Its not like they are dead!!!

Posted by on Nov. 8, 2014 at 10:58 PM
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Is the comment I get from a sibling when speaking of the twins I gave up for adoption. Smh.
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drfink
by Silver Member on Nov. 8, 2014 at 11:08 PM
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Very sorry..

What a terribly thoughtless thing to say to you.I always fail to understand why people make that comparison to birth mothers.None of us are claiming our living children are dead so what is their point ????

My mother ,the one that had me locked away ,has said that and also said to think of him as dead.

onethentwins
by Gold Member on Nov. 9, 2014 at 12:37 AM

What a horrible sibling you have.  what did you say?

mrsary
by Member on Nov. 9, 2014 at 2:38 AM
I said a loss is a loss and there is grieving involved. Of course she said it was my choice and she doesn't get it. I've heard this often the past year since I gave them up but I just realized how silly it sounds!!

Quoting onethentwins:

What a horrible sibling you have.  what did you say?

randi1978
by Bronze Member on Nov. 9, 2014 at 3:29 PM
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Ugh.  I can't decide what is worse, getting shit from family over it or family not even acknowledging the child's existence (like my family).

purplelibra0006
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2014 at 2:32 AM
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Oh my..... So sorry...

But it is like they ( our children) are dead.

It's such a similar feeling :-((

My mom actually yelled at me this year when it was around the date of my Darians birthday and his passing..smh.... She doesn't understand at all and said so herself.
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