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Friend needing help

Posted by on Aug. 27, 2009 at 8:53 AM
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I recently met with a friend to let her know about my story, giving my son up for adoption and our reunion.  I have never shared any of this with anyone until recently. It has helped me heal and to help me not feel as if I did some really shameful  She asked a lot of questions and cried alot.  She finally shared with me that she also gave a child up for adoption.  It broke my heart to hear her story as well. 

She would like to start searching.  Can anyone give me some help on this?  My son found me so I don't have any information for her on searching,  I will be giving her my copy of Birthright  to read.  Thank you.                               

mk's mom

by on Aug. 27, 2009 at 8:53 AM
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mlyn23
by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 9:53 AM

www.TheAdoptionSpecialist.com 

www.iwasadopted.com   

www.MyLife.com 

www.holtintl.org/mcginnis.shtml

hope these help some. :)

UnyqRumin8r
by Member on Aug. 28, 2009 at 10:56 AM

In California you can fill out a consent form, get it notarized and add it to your adoption file (the agency you went through).  If the adoptee has one on file, they will be matched, and then you will both be notified and you go from there.  When I did this I was told that my son hadn't filed the form, but they told me what they could, such as that he had asked for information when he was 15.  Eventually, I went through a search angel.  Since my son was in prison when I found him, I didn't want to make any mistakes.  The woman I contacted seemed like the right amom and her ason seemed like the right person, but given the circumstances I didn't want to get anyone's hopes up.  This is a good way to be sure that the person claiming to be your child is indeed your child.  In my case, I had the original BC# and asked the amom to give me a copy of the amended BC.  The numbers matched and then I was sure he was my son. 

I do not have contact with any search angels, but if anyone knows someone they trust, they might discreetly contact you with that info.  I read about a "find" and emailed the person privately for the info.



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Jason, Dec. 21, 1969

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