Carrie's question of the day?

[carebear83350]

Do you think it is alright for a grandparent to have a favorite grandchild?

[dndmomof4]

I surely do not.  I see it all the time, but I don't think it is fair.

[NaughtyGoddess]

I think sometimes that it is something you just can't help.   We lived with my mother when my daughter was born - so they have a very special relationship.  My mom loves her other grandchildren very much - but will always have just a little more bond with the first one (my daughter)    Sometimes you just have a closer connection with someone because your personalities mesh well.  Of course, my mom always made a point to treat all the kids the same and always loved them all!

[wwefan53]

I don't have a favorite. Although I am closer to my granddaughter than my grandson, she seems to "like" me better? I treat them both equally.

[carebear83350]

my mother in law is like bc my sister in law can't be an adult and get out on her own, her daughter has pretty much lived with my inlaws for 9 years so of course she is closer to her.  The only problem is, that she also treats her a lot better then my girls as well and makes it a point to say that Amber is her favorite.

Quoting NaughtyGoddess:

I think sometimes that it is something you just can't help.   We lived with my mother when my daughter was born - so they have a very special relationship.  My mom loves her other grandchildren very much - but will always have just a little more bond with the first one (my daughter)    Sometimes you just have a closer connection with someone because your personalities mesh well.  Of course, my mom always made a point to treat all the kids the same and always loved them all!

[laughingsquaw]

no cause it brings tension between kids    &family members

[brookepilkenton]

i went threw it for 6 years my exmother in law always favoried my exs neices over his daughter that he had before us and my daughter from before we got together. and it didnt stop when i had 2 more kids it was always about her only granddaughter.  i never understood how she could do that my mom when she passed away had 32 grandchildren and never favoried one over the others. 

[NaughtyGoddess]

Quoting carebear83350:

my mother in law is like bc my sister in law can't be an adult and get out on her own, her daughter has pretty much lived with my inlaws for 9 years so of course she is closer to her.  The only problem is, that she also treats her a lot better then my girls as well and makes it a point to say that Amber is her favorite.

Quoting NaughtyGoddess:

I think sometimes that it is something you just can't help.   We lived with my mother when my daughter was born - so they have a very special relationship.  My mom loves her other grandchildren very much - but will always have just a little more bond with the first one (my daughter)    Sometimes you just have a closer connection with someone because your personalities mesh well.  Of course, my mom always made a point to treat all the kids the same and always loved them all!

 

Now that is just WRONG - even if you have a softer spot in your heart for one of the children - THEY should never know it.  My mom has always been very careful to be fair - and she loves ALL of the children with all of her heart... she would never take a chance of hurting them - its not that she doesnt like any of them  - she's just a bit closer to mine daughter sometimes.  Your mother-in-law is just plain wrong to play favorites - but you might bring it up to her - maybe let her know that you cant change the fact that she has a "favorite" but you would appreciate it if she kept this to herself in front of your children

[RobynS]

I think it's common and probably inevitable. But they should do their best not to show it!

[grandmasix]

NO WAY THEY ALL SHOULD BE TREATED EQUAL.