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Just my observation

Nov. 1, 2008 at 1:05 AM by mamajody0507
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I don't know if it IS true, but looking at the photos of the babies that I know have been forced to CIO, I see a deep sadness in their eyes, even when they smile. And their smile is somehow "different" than the babies I know that have never been subjected to CIO. Its just an observation.

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	by JoyeAustin on Nov. 3, 2008 at 10:00 AM A happy baby shows it. A baby that hasn't been lavished with love shows it. It makes us sad when we can spot the difference. :(
	by ivansmom07 on Nov. 4, 2008 at 5:47 PM Quoting JoyeAustin: A happy baby shows it. A baby that hasn't been lavished with love shows it. It makes us sad when we can spot the difference. :( I think a mom of a non-CIO baby can tell the difference more than a mom using CIO. Does that make sense to you?? But yes, I agree. A friend of mine use to baby sit for a little boy that was neglected (sorry, there is just no other word for it) the poor guy was left to CIO and hardly ever held. His eyes just screamed "HOLD ME! LOVE ME" It was so sad.
	by angeladh82 on Nov. 10, 2008 at 3:00 PM My nephew has those eyes and it breaks my heart!! I always feel bad when we leave, becuase I don't know if he will be loved again until I get him back in my arms. he is very un-sure and you can just tell that he is uncertain of his security. It is really sad!!!
	by rozepyle on Nov. 10, 2008 at 3:02 PM hell yeah you can spot it
	by LylasMom0519 on Nov. 12, 2008 at 2:23 PM People constantly tell me that they can tell that my baby is a happy well taken care of baby with out even knowing that I have never made her cry it out. I am completely proud to say that my baby has never and will never be forced to cry it out!!! I am proud of all you moms who don't take the easy way out either. GO MOMMAS!!! Emily
	by RanaAurora on Nov. 12, 2008 at 4:19 PM I can definitely tell. You call tell in the way they ask their parents for things (whether they're using words yet or not) and how they react when their parent does things with them. It makes me quite sad. Group Owner: Nestlé-Free Zone Check it out to learn about or join the boycott. I Can Has Cheezburger? Love LOLZ Cats? Join the group! CIO Alternatives: How to get your baby to sleep without leaving them to cry.
	by _Tam_ on Nov. 12, 2008 at 4:27 PM Quoting LylasMom0519: People constantly tell me that they can tell that my baby is a happy well taken care of baby with out even knowing that I have never made her cry it out. I am completely proud to say that my baby has never and will never be forced to cry it out!!! I am proud of all you moms who don't take the easy way out either. GO MOMMAS!!! Emily Same here. They may have never met me before or my daughter, but they take one look at her and know that she's not neglected, but loved and adored. They know she's a happy child (she isn't a baby anymore; she's 2 next Tuesday!). TamBalehead since 1992
	by twinnmom222 on Nov. 29, 2008 at 10:57 PM I agree. I also think that non-CIO children tend to form a closer connection/bond with their mother than children that are left to CIO, JMO.
	by EvaLee on Dec. 3, 2008 at 5:12 PM I don't know if it's because a mom left her child to CIO or not but I have definitely seen lots of babies who look sad even though they are smiling. Asher just expects people to be paying attention to him. He'll smile and look up at strangers just assuming they are watching him because that's how it usually goes for him. We have a Pack-n-Play and I've just got junk from the kitchen piled in there because we do not use it. He has never liked being in a crib or Pack-n-Play. I feel like this is just his personality and that maybe some kids are fine with being confined and isolated but mine does not.