In the October 2008 issue of Parenting Magazine, on page 124, "The spoiled-baby myth":
"Babies under three months exist in the present,".... And because crying is your infant's only way of telling you something's wrong, you need to attend to her so she can begin to make the connection betwen her cries and your comforting, which happens around 6 months of age. Even then, an older baby probably isn't capable of manipulating you to get your attention...
Young babies shouldn't have to wait for a response, either. "Too much stress on an infant's nervous system-such as crying continuously- isn't healthy for her development,".... After three to six months, you can try stalling your response a bit (with a gentle "I'll be right there"), but it's never a good idea for babies younger than 6 months to "cry it out."
So trust your gut: Soothe your new baby when she wails. Turn a deaf ear to everyone's advice- not your baby's cries.
I am going to clip this article and show it to anyone who questions my responsivness to my baby!! It's going on the fridge!