14 & Pregnant

[MommaMonica]

Kay, so I know I shouldn't be allowed on this site since I'm only fourteen, but I'm pregnant and this is the only place where I know I could get help and support. So, I'm pregnant. Duh. Anyways, I'm really happy about it but really scared. People have been bashing me and calling me a "whore" and a "slut", when they don't know the whole story, of how I PLANNED to get pregnant. I know teen pregnancy shouldn't be something you plan, but having this baby is saving my life.
I've been in the hospital for suicide attempt seven times in the past three years. Knowing I now have an innocent, unborn child growing inside of me, I feel like there is something worth fighting for (this is so you know how it's saving my life, because I knew that would sound weird to you). So, in a way, this beautiful result of love is saving me.

But, the daddy left me last night. He agreed he'd stay and help me with the baby, but I guess he changed his mind. He still wants to be friends, but I don't know how he feels about this baby. Anyways, I just really need help and advice. Like, where the best place to find cheaply priced things for a baby are, what I should look forward to, what the best options for staying in school are, how to tell my parents, foods and drinks I should stay away from, how to keep myself from having a miscarriage... I don't know, just please help, I'm desperate.

[MorganShanks]

Hey Girl.. I Totally Understand I Tried Suicide And I Started Using Drugs I almost OD'ed A Few Times My Son Is now 6 MOnths and He changed my life.. and there is no age limit for this site if you r prego or jst trying thats all that matters.. if you have a facebook look me up Morgan Shanks i am here to talk and if you need anything write me i can even give u my # if you need to Txt.. I know exactly where u r i tried to get prego also.. Please Contact me Back.. <3 

[KariC33]

Hey, im going threw the same thing as you, im a little older though im 17 and pregnant. If you want to talk just message me , we could talk whenever :)

[mommyoftwins28]

Hello I know what you mean well I've never done drugs but I used to cut and I was on prozac but when I found out I was pregnant I didn't seem so helpless and depressed I felt like there was a reason for me to be around but again it doesn't fix things you have to see a councelor because every now and then I still get tempted to.cut and its a struggle but you will get there congratulations on your baby

[cRystienah]

I'm 17. I got pregnant when I was 14 going on 15 (I didnt plan it though)

I miscarried when I was 5 months along. It was a very tough situation but I have finally came to terms with it. I realized I'm still a mom but my baby just belonged at home with God. (Just my point of view) And I am not trying to conceive. I'm still with the same guy I got pregnant with when I was 14.

But anyways I'll give you some advice on everything..:

1. Cheap Baby Items: I've noticed that I find baby stuff waaaay cheaper on eBay. (I'm not sure if its possible for you to shop online or not.. but if so then eBay is the way to go). Otherwise shop at like The Dollar Store, Dollar Tree, Wal Mart.. any of those kinds of places are good.

2. I actually finished school online but it cost a lot of money so your going to need to get a job and probably pay for daycare. I think that would be the cheapest way to go for you unless your school has another option for you. Where I live we have a school for teen mom's and pregnant moms where you can take your baby to school with you. You'll just have to look into things for where you live.

3. I told my mom by writing her a letter and leaving it by her bed one morning before I went to stay with a friend. She cried but was very helpfull. Then later on she had my stay with my boyfriend for the weekend so she could tell my dad. He cried too but then was accepting of my situation.

4. If I remember correctly, you want to stay away from raw foods including deli meat. You need to go to a drug store and get prenatal vitamins right away too! (p.s. they work wonders for your nails and hair! lol) also don't drink alcohol, or smoke.. thats a given. Just look online for more stuff like that. The book What To Expect When Expecting is one of the books I read a lot when I was pregnant.

5. There really is no way to keep yourself from having a miscarriage.. Sometimes the baby just aborts itself because it didn't form correctly. (like it did in my situation) Just keep yourself healthy, stay away from stressful situations. Do everything your dr says. (make sure you get a dr as soon as possible) and when your tired.. sleep.

If your have anymore questions just ask (:

Hope this is helpful!! And good luck!

[cRystienah]

I meant I am now trying to concieve. =P

[cRystienah]

Oh! also stay away from caffeine.

[velvet_rum17]

You are more then welcome to message me at any time. I had my twins when I was 14 almost 15 they werent planned. But I am almost 17 and pregnant with my third child who was semi some what planned but I am doing this all alone now. 

[MissArtsyPants]

Hey. I'm not depressed or anything, but I am always up to help/be there for someone in need. I'm not going to berate you with my opinions on planning a pregnancy while suicidal and only fourteen, and I promise that I won't be judgemental; to each his own is my mantra :) Where I live, there is a pregnancy resource center that offers program to earn baby items...I haven't looked into it much, but it might help you. I would also go to consignment shops. They usually carry cheap items in like new condition. Feel free to add me, if you would like. 

[juicymom960]

hey congratz on the baby!! im 16 and have 2yr old daughte4 who i love. having a baby will help alot in ur case and i reallywud love to talk to u bcuz i understand how u fell abt being scared so msg me

[BentleyManoula]

I'm Wonder and I'm 18 years old. I have a baby boy named Bentley! Feel free to message me :)