I am really scared

Why are your kids in foster homes? I'm sorry if it seems rude, I just feel like I missed one of your posts or something.

On a different note, I'm so sorry! I'm sure that you will find out where they are going though. Isnt that your right? If you havent complately lost your kids, then I'm sure that it is. Again though, I feel like I need more info to say anything about it.

Good luck!

Was going to ask the same thing.

Quoting ColeyRene:

Why are your kids in foster homes? I'm sorry if it seems rude, I just feel like I missed one of your posts or something.

On a different note, I'm so sorry! I'm sure that you will find out where they are going though. Isnt that your right? If you havent complately lost your kids, then I'm sure that it is. Again though, I feel like I need more info to say anything about it.

Good luck!

Yep same ??

Quoting MARIE20:

Was going to ask the same thing.

Quoting ColeyRene:

Why are your kids in foster homes? I'm sorry if it seems rude, I just feel like I missed one of your posts or something.

On a different note, I'm so sorry! I'm sure that you will find out where they are going though. Isnt that your right? If you havent complately lost your kids, then I'm sure that it is. Again though, I feel like I need more info to say anything about it.

Good luck!

 

My husband, son and I were living in a shelter for 6 months and on July 2,2008 we moved into an apartment, although it was a week after our daughter was born.  She was born 3 weeks early and started to not gain weight like she is supposed to apparently. She had been admitted to the hospital 2  for failure to thirve after that the state said that I was neglecting my kids so they took them into state custody. On top of being overwhelmed with just moving and having anew baby the doctors wheren't tell me anything about my daughter so I reacted to the situation and it probly wasn't the right way, but these are my children and somebody with holding information from me was not cool for me so I reacted badly. The state then was concerned that I would hurt my kids, which I have never done. Since they have been in state custody my kids have physical scaring done to them, not to mention emotional, and mental. Anyway I was asking for help for a long time and nobody would help me until they just decided to take my kids to help, not what I was asking for. That pretty much explains why I don't have them.  My son was 15 16 months old and my daughter was 2 1/2 months old when the were taken and now they are 18 and 5 months old. Sorry so long just wanted explain tosome that didn't know.

I'm sorry you are so scared and I hope you find out soon and that they are being well taken care of.

Now, please use this as a learning experience.

If you were in a shelter must mean you are not financially stable. Until you are stable, please do not have any more children.  YOU have control over that.  Use that control.

Next, learn that  HOW you handle situations is so important.  Don't let hysteria and anger get in the way of good sence. For them to think you were unstable, you really must have been over the top.  YOU control  this, use it..   Something,I figured out a long time ago.  There is SO much crap out there that we have no control over.   Of the things that you do have control over, make sure you use it wisely. That is the power you have.

I truely hope things improve for you.

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As a Foster mother myself Failure to thrive doest just come on all of a sudden so the state is looking at is at why didnt you seek help? That is neglectful. Those could not have been your intention I dont know but is very serious. What state are you living in. I do have some sympathy for you but I also know that some people just cant except that they have problem. Not saying this of you I dont know you. But keep in mind you are the one who made it public so be prepared for some not so nice thing. It is possible you need some of it and maybe you dont we dont know you But we love all kids and yours are in a bad way right now and so MOMMYs all over are going to react. I hope what ever is best for your family. I dont know what that would be I am not there but I hope for the best.

ok so I guess I'll be the positive one on this post. i don't care what others say, but jumpinh from foster home to foster home is not in the best interest of any child! I don't think you are a bad mom in anyway, I think things got rough and you weren't being helped so you simply reacted. I don't know what mother wouldn't react regardless what they may say before it happens. Ask anyone you can about where the children are going, I'm sure you will find out soon. Then I know this is the hardest part, but focus on you. You need to get yourself to a "secure" place in order to get your children back. With the way the economy is going that really will be the hardest part, then after you know you are secure, find a lawyer I'm pretty sure all states have a lawyer free of cost/pro bona. With that lawyer take the steps to get your kids back!

I have a lawyer ans I have been asking for help on how do I take care of 2 small childern. We just got into a place because yes we were having financial problems due to the Army scewig my husband out of his pay. As far as having any more kids I wasn't planing on baby # 2 so soon. I finnaly got a birth control that will hopefully help prevent another pregenecy so soon. The doctors keep saying not to worry she is okay until the fact that she would gain weight in the hostpital, but when we took her home she wouldn't gain. Being in foster home she still isn't gaining.She gained 3 oz. in 3 weeks. The doctor said she was fine and sent her back to her foster family. Even the foster momwas a little concered but not the doctor now that is messed up. My daughter will be 6 months on December 23 and weighs a little over 10 lbs.and she needs to get to 12.2. I'll say it again I have never hurt my kids but being in state custody there have physical scar on them that they got out of my home and out of my care. Nobody will tell mebhow they got them so I have to the right to be very upset for these are my kids and I stll have my rights.

You people have no clue how hard it is to be thrown from foster home from foster home. For me from birth-4 years old I was in seven different foster homes, thanks to the wonderful world of social services. Everytime my birth mom would clean up, i would go with her, she screwed up and i would go to yet another foster home. Is this really what you want for a kid? I had a lot of emotional issues to deal with later in life that all came back to nobody wanting me, or so i had in my mind. I wouldn't wish that upon any child. I am very sorry for you honey. I really hate social services, because it seems to me like a lot of the time the families that really need help can't get it, and they are always butting into business they don't need to be. I really don't know your situation, but I really hope the best for you! You and your kids are in my prayers. God Bless, I am sure that prayer is what is really needed right now, not bashing or people putting you down!

ill pray for you