AS WITH EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE, THIS GROUP AND ITS CHAT HAS RULES THAT ARE TO BE FOLLOWED IN ORDER FOR IT TO RUN SMOOTHLY AND BE FAIR FOR EVERYONE. THEY ARE AS FOLLOWS:
1. THE RULES REGARDING POSTS:
Any posts put in this group forum, with the intention of starting drama, will be deleted. While we all appreciate a good debate (and they are allowed) this is NOT a drama group and such posts will not be allowed in here. Also, any posts that are against the site's TOS will be automatically deleted. We will not allow posts to be posted in this group that are against the rules of either this site or this group. Any posts asking for money will be deleted. While we all find ourselves in times of need, this is not the place to be soliciting for money or goods. IF YOU HAVE AN ITEM FOR SALE OR ARE SEEKING TO BUY SOMETHING YOU CAN FEEL FREE TO POST IT IN OUR GROUP POST MADE SPECIFICALLY FOR ITEMS FOR SALE:
Posting posts with just a title, no post and then links to an advertisement or business are not allowed either. If you have a post or something you would like to post, by all means, feel free to post it, that's what the forum is for. We have a stickied post at the top of the forum, titled Cafemom/Other links here only, please put them in there. But I have found sometimes 5-10 posts a week like this in here and it has became quite a problem.
2.THE FACEBOOK RULE:
In light of the situations recently back and forth between here and Facebook, there is a third and final new rule that is in place for the admins and members alike....
In accordance to the conversation with myself and Deb, and with myself and Christin, we have decided upon the following......
Any and all admins and/or members who are bashing, attacking, disrespecting, harrassing, or ganging up on other admins or members on FACEBOOK will be reprimanded in the group. We, as admins, and they, as members, are representatives of this group, whether they are in the group on CafeMom or on Facebook. So, effective immediately, the group rules that pertain to our group forum and group chat are now carried over to Facebook. In light of recent situations, we have had members and such carrying on in a childish and immature behavior and it will NOT be tolerated any longer. Acting like this portrays a bad reputation for not only themselves, but our admins, members, group and the entire CafeMom site. So, as admins, it is our job to ensure that it does not happen any longer. I realize this is going to be difficult, as we are friends with most, on Facebook, however, we have to bear in mind, that when you agreed to be admins, you all agreed to be unbiased, impartial and fair, and as members, they are all aware that there are rules to be followed and this mess of causing drama and attacking people on facebook and thinking it is acceptable is obviously not acceptable and needs to stop. This is to take effect immediately. If members are caught at it, they will get a temp ban. If if persists, the ban will be extended, just as it is in the chat room. We are adults, so are our members, and should be expected to act that way. It is NEVER ok to threaten another member, regardless of whether it is in the group forum, in the chat room, or on FaceBook. So, as of now (actually this morning) any and all violations will be taken care of. If something is brought to your attention, bring it to Christin or myself and her and I will decide upon the length of the ban. The bickering and fighting and name calling drama is officially put to a stop. We need to learn to realize that everyone has differing opinions and while we may not agree, no one opionion is right or wrong. If, as admins, you are or have been any part of it, I seriously suggest that it cease immediately. Because, while I hate to have to demote admins, I am very fond of you all, I must do my job, and so does Christin and we will not hesitate to take a stand and demote admins or ban members for their actions. We, as admins, are to be held a higher standard than members, are supposed to be someone they can look up to and need to act as such. I will not tolerate members going after and ganging up on each other on facebook any longer. It is up to us as admins to pass this along and make everyone aware of the new rule and if there are any questions about it, please do not hesitate to come to Christin or myself and we will try to help clarify things as much as possible.
WE HAVE A GROUP PAGE ON FACEBOOK FOR THIS PAGE, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO JOIN IT AND LEAVE YOUR CAFEMOM USERNAME IN A COMMENT SO THAT WE KNOW WHO IS WHO AND CAN ADD MEMBERS.JUST CLICK THE LINK BELOW AND IT WILL TAKE YOU TO THE POST.
3.THE RULE REGARDING SEX TALK IN THE CHAT ROOM:
I know at times there may be instances where you get on the subject of sex and I understand - it's a natural part of life. However, I DO NOT want to hear or see talk in graphic nature on a continuous basis. If you wish to continue talk of this kind, there are literally thousands of internet sites that offer this service. Please respect the wishes of EVERY mom here and know that most of them would prefer not to engage in this type of conversation - as well as me! And it's not fair to say to those members objecting that they can leave the chat room if they don't like the talk, because I am not going to ask that they leave in instances like this.
What I am asking for is that the sexual talk be limited and if at any point in time ANY member is insulted in any shape or fashion that it stop immediately.
Failure to follow the rule and respect others will result in a warning and/or possibly being banned.
4.THE RULES REGARDING LINKS IN THE GROUP POSTS:
Please place all your business and other CafeMom links here. If they are posted elsewhere, they will be deleted (sorry). Below is the link to the post specifically made for links. All links must go in here, not in the posts or in the forum. This keeps our forum cleared and less cluttered and easier to maneuver. Just click the link below and it will take you to the post.
5.THE RULES REGARDING LINKS AND ADVERTISING IN THE CHATROOM:
ADVERTISING IS NOT ALLOWED IN THE CHAT ROOM, NOR IS SOLICITING BUSINESS FOR YOUR HOME BUSINESSES. LINKS ARE FROWNED UPON IN THE CHAT ROOM. HOWEVER, THERE ARE SOME THAT ARE ALLOWED AND THEY ARE EXPLAINED BELOW.
SOMETHING BEING DISCUSSED, AS LONG AS IT IS NOT ANOTHER GROUP OR CHAT ON CAFEMOM.
HELPFUL LINKS SUCH AS RECALLS, ETC.
A LINK THAT IS REQUESTED, SUCH AS A LINK FOR A PRODUCT LIKE BABY ITEMS, GIFT ITEMS, ETC.
LINKS THAT ARE NOT ALLOWED:
(ALL OF THESE ARE TO BE PUT IN THE LINKS POST, MENTIONED ABOVE)
LINKS FOR VOTES
EMAILS OR PRIVATE INFORMATION LINKS
FOR FACEBOOK, MYSPACE, YAHOO, ETC. THERE IS A POST IN THE GROUP FOR SUCH THINGS SO THAT OUR MEMBERS CAN CONNECT WITH OTHERS. PLEASE USE IT. THE "NO LINKS" RULE IS QUITE CLEAR AND THERE HAVE BEEN NUMEROUS VIOLATIONS REGARDING THEM. AS STATED ABOVE, ALL POSTS WITH THEM WILL BE DELETED. JUST CLICK THE LINK BELOW AND IT WILL TAKE YOU TO THE POST
6. CHAT RULE REGARDING UNSOLICITED INSTANT MESSAGES:
WHILE WE ALL LOVE TO CHAT IN THE CHAT ROOM AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER, UNSOLICITED INSTANT MESSAGES ARE FROWNED UPON. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO I.M. SOMEONE, PLEASE CHAT WITH THEM FIRST AND ASK PERMISSION TO I.M. THEM. WE HAVE HAD A RASH OF WEIRD INSTANT MESSAGES IN THERE AND IT TENDS TO MAKE PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE. IF YOU RECEIVE AN UNSOLICITED I.M.WHILE IN CHAT, PLEASE BRING IT TO THE ATTENTION OF THE ADMIN ON SHIFT. IF YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO IS ON SHIFT, FEEL FREE TO ASK AND SOMEONE WILL TELL YOU. ALSO--THERE IS TO BE NO NAME CALLING AT ALL- DO NOT CALL PEOPLE BITCHES, BIOTCHES, WH*RES OR ANY OTHER NAME LIKE THAT, EVEN IN JEST. IT IS NOT TOLERATED AT ALL, NO EXCEPTIONS!
Feel free to respond, if you would like, but please do so in a mature, respectful manner.
rules are not put into place because of any one individual, they are
just things that need to be addressed and worked on so that we can
continue to make this the "best group" on CafeMom! With that being
said, let's get some posts written and some chatting done and all get
along. LOVE YOU ALL- Paradise (aka P) and Christin (aka C)