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DHS/CPS help QUICK!!! Please! *UPDATE*

Posted by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 7:48 PM
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UPDATE: The caseworker decided not to show up for the home inspection... I'm so frustrated with the whole stupid system!!! I think I'll be calling his supervisor in the morning to try to get this taken care of. I feel like everything has been blown out of proportion, and that we aren't being treated fairly, by appointments being blown off, and refusing to hear my sons's side of the story. It's just ridiculous. Thanks for all your help, I'll keep you all updated as anything else comes up.  


I need help ASAP :( I'm freaking out, and I'm hoping SOMEONE has answers for me. 

I'll give the short version of the story, because there's A LOT of crap, but if you have questions, feel free to ask and I'll do my best to fill you in. 

So 2 months ago, the police came knocking at my door asking to speak to my son (my 11 year old). I said he was in bed and I wanted to know why they needed to talk to him. When I say this, I mean it, and not just because I'm his mom, but he truly is the most amazing little boy I've ever known. He's incredibly smart, he's kind, gentle, sweet, truthful, I could go on and on. So they said that the little girl next door's mom was accusing him of having his hand down her pants. I was shocked to say the least, and they told us the story. They said a detective would be contacting us in the next week or two. So I got my son out of bed, and asked what had happened with the neighbor girl. He looked at me like I was crazy, and couldn't figure out what I was talking about. So I explained to him that police had been, what they said, etc., and he told us his side of the story, which was COMPLETELY different from the neighbor girl's. 

So even thought we are 1000000% sure of his innocence, we got him an attorney that we could ill afford, because I didn't want him to go it alone. 

3 days later, DHS (child welfare/CPS) comes over asking to speak to him. I said he was gone and that we had been instructed not to speak to them anyway. So I called my attorney and he said we could let him in, but not to make any statements or anything like that, and he was not to talk to my son without the attorney present. So he then made us figure out a "safety plan" where my son wouldn't be allowed around children without supervision... even my other 2 boys. I about flipped, but decided to just follow the rules, be cooperative, and hope it would all be over soon. He wasn't even allowed to sleep in his own room because he and my 4 year old share a room. I told him that we have 3 children and a 2 bedroom house, not sure where the hell we are going to work it out that he sleep! So he makes the smartass comment of, "how do you like sleeping on the floor in the living room?" to my son. I wanted to slap him but I refrained. My son is INNOCENT and he's being treated like a criminal! And this was about 3 weeks after all this crap happened anyway, and still nothing has been done to investigate, we are simply a puppet on a string to appease the DHS guy.

Forward to now, 65 days later. The DHS guy told us that legally he had 60 days to decide whether he was going to proceed with the case, or drop it. He tried bribing us into getting my son to see one of their psychiatrists to "make him drop the case faster". Uhh, do I look as stupid as he thinks I am?? They would do nothing but sabotage my son. The've already ruined his life enough, stolen his innocence, and made him terrified to turn the corner.

So anyway, I called him to ask whether I would be getting a letter in the mail, or a fax, or how it would be made official that the case has been dropped since the 60 days has passed. He said he was still making a decision, and that he would have to come out and do a home inspection in the morning before he could decide.

Now I'm freaking out, I have questions, and I'm hoping you guys can help out. If you've dealt with DHS, if you've worked with DHS, if you have ANY information it would be greatly appreciated. Please, I'm in a panic :( I can't get ahold of my attorney, so that's why I'm posting on here.

Here are my questions for you guys::

- Can he legally do anything since the 60 days has passed?

- What is he looking for in a home inspection??? I want to make sure everything is absolutely perfect, but I don't want to miss something I wouldn't have thought of. What would make him press charges, since the only thing he's supposedly looking to do is convict my innocent son? I have less than 24 hours to make my house perfect, and I'm scared I'm not going to pass. :(

- Can you give me a list of absolute MUSTS for DHS inspections?

Thank you all so much, I'm sorry for posting in so many groups, I just need as many answers as possible. And sorry this is so long!!

And please, no bashing. My son is innocent, and we have a lovely little family, and we don't do anything we shouldn't.. I promise


by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 7:48 PM
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by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 7:52 PM


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by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 8:03 PM
I would be calling that case workers supervisor. I wouldn't let him in my home and id be going to the attornys office for answers
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by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 8:05 PM
Bump. I'm sorry you are going through this. I have no advise I have never delt with them
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by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 10:11 PM

This guy is abusing his power. Go over his head and don't let him in your house. Refuse to deal with him and ask for a different person

by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 10:13 PM

And you might have to file a formal complaint, keep a log of all your conversations and things he says and does

by on Sep. 28, 2010 at 11:11 PM
I'm sorry I have no advice to give you. Never had to deal with them. What is wrong with the neighbor that they caused you and your son all this trouble. Why if the mom had a problem didn't she come to you to talk? So sorry you are going through this.
by on Sep. 29, 2010 at 7:53 AM

Sounds like you have done everything perfect up until this point.  Very smart woman not allowing their doctors/etc.  GOOD FOR YOU!!!  I wouldn't allow the case worker  in until you talk wih your attorney... and he is present.  I have dealt with DCF and they can be very manipulative.  In my case... my children were being harmed by their own father (not in my home) and they did nothing to help him... time and time again.  Its a broken system.  Please keep us posted.


by on Sep. 29, 2010 at 8:03 AM

make sure you have food in your fridge and youe house is clean if u do let  him in and make sure u have a place for your oldest to sleep. i would say if its been past the 60 days then he cant do nothing but I would go over his head to his super and talk to him/her

by on Sep. 29, 2010 at 8:23 AM

The only info I have, is we did get a letter in the mail saying our case was closed. But our social worker "got it" and she closed it within a week.

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