Our daughter is 5 months old now. He was excited when we hit all the pregnancy milestones but after she was born he like froze in a sense. I thought it would go away with time. when I went back to work he only had 2 feedings & 3 diaper changes (no poop ones though) under his belt.
After my first week at work he told me he would rather work two jobs to make sure I was home with her then take care of her while i was at work. Cause he said he was not good with her & he could not do it. So I said ok knowing i was a nervous wreck that whole time i was gone & when i called on breaks she was always upset. I thought that that would be better for all of us.
For me & her it is great I love being home with her. I took to it well & hubby likes working & supporting his family so in that sense it has worked out really well but he still has not bonded with her or shows any interest in doing so. I know he loves her cause before he leaves or when he comes home he kisses her on the head & talks to her everyday but he does not hold her. She knows he is daddy & tries to get his attention when she sees him. he ignores it even when i say daddy she wants you he finds an excuse. i worry on her side she will give up.Then when he IS ready she wont want anything to do with him sending it all full circle.
I have talked to him about it a lot. he has no clear explanation for it. he does not even know himself why he says.
I have tried the leave for a bit to no avail. Putting her in his lap handing him the bottle or just giving him her to hold nothing else. the whole tough love stuff. He claims he is not scared of her & has asked me not to try anymore. he will be ready when he is ready.
Has anyone else experienced this with their guy? I don't want them to have a drift between them. :(