I love my daughter with all my heart. She's a great joy in my life. But, she is spoiled. She's not happy with any toy for more than a few minutes. She HAS to be held or she will scream and scream and scream and not just scream for a couple minutes and it's over, no, she can go an hour if we'd let her. It's not just a cry either, she's legitimately yelling at us. She's only 3 months old. I know it takes a child 3 days to learn a new routine but I don't know how to break her of this other than the "let her cry it out" plan which I hate. I can't just let my child cry. I have nothing against mother's who do it I commend you for your willpower but it's just not in me. My first child, my son was so much easier. He was always calm and picked up on things quickly, he was independent from the start. But my daughter well...she's just the opposite lol. We did the biggest mistake of letting her sleep in our bed and now of course we can't break her of it. She has to be held when she's sleeping (sometimes I can slide her off me and she'll stay asleep but not all the time) and she has to be held when she's awake or she will yell. She already throws tantrums when nothing can possibly be wrong with her. So basically, how do I break her of this?? We can't just keep catering to her. I love her, I love holding her but I also need to accomplish things and eventually she's going to need to learn a certain sense of independence. So, if you had a similar problem how were you able to over come it? And please don't tell me to let her cry it out lol my fiance's been fighting for that but I just can't do it.
3 month olds do not throw tantrums and they do not really play with toys, so to speak. Babies are all different...some are harder than others.
Che may have some other issue....tummy pain, fever, irritability, colic.....
Again I say...3 month old babies can not be spoiled and throw tantrums b/c they do not get their way...they are infants...they havent made the connection between crying and getting what they want.
Again, she's to young to be spoiled. Babies need to be held. It's how they find comfort and learn to trust.
My son, who is 9 months old, cried and screamed for the first 4 months of his life. He had reflux AND colic!! The only people who could hold him were me and his dad. If anybody else even so much as made eye contact with him, he would scream. I called him my problem child when I was pregnant with him. LOL!
The plus side is if you're dealing with colic, it usually only lasts about 3-4 months! This to shall pass!
As I agree that a 3 month old cannot throw a temper tantrum, I must say it can be that she has alreday made a connection between her crying nd you picking her up. I have 5 children, my twin daughters were my easiest believe it or not, slept alone from day one, had a feedinf routine within 3 weeks and are now lovely independant 7 year olds, but my youngest, which is a boy was my most difficult baby. He used to cry and cry and cry at around 3 months until he was in my arms, his dad coud not even console him. I let him sleep in my bed then it took 4 months to break him of the habit. My health visitor adviced me that the crying WAS his way of getting me to pick him up, that even small babies can make a cnnection this simple; 'if i make this noise mummy picks me up'
Even though she is still quite young I think your best option could be what I did, invest in a small blanket, sleep with it for 2 nights so it collects your scent, then introduce it to your daughter, by letting her lie next to it, hold it, smell it and smell you.
She will then make the connection between you and the blanket, it will become a comfort to her. Then do control crying...it doesn't have to be for long periods of time, maybe 1 minute for a day, then 2 minutes for the next day etc etc but always making sure she has the blanket when you are doing it so she smells you off it and becomes comforted slightly.
It's a long winded process but it did work for me. My 2 youngest children(now aged 2&3) have a comfort blanket they've had from a very young age and even now.....tantrums, tiredness etc is soothed by getting their special blankets. :-)
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- onedayillsmile
on Aug. 22, 2012 at 1:46 PM