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Domestic Violence info

Posted by on Jul. 19, 2008 at 7:03 PM
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I work in a Domestic Violence shelter and if you or someone you know is being abused you need to get help.  ALSO REMEMBER THAT YOUR COMPUTER CAN TELL YOUR ABUSER YOUR PLANS, PLEASE BE CAREFUL AND DELETE ALL INFORMATION THAT YOU LOOK UP IN REFERENCE TO LEAVING OR GETTING HELP.  Violence doesn't know any discrimination.  If you or someone you know needs help PLEASE call the National domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) whoever answers the line can direct you to a local shelter or answer any questions you may have.  Any Shelter is there to help women and child (and some also help male victims) get the counseling and any other help that they need to get through the difficult time.  Abuse can be Emotional abuse (name calling, putting someone down, or controlling who/what they see or do), Physical Abuse (hitting, kicking, biting, anything that causes physical pain), Sexual abuse (can also be from a spouse or otherwise intimate partner when it is a unwanted occurance.)  Leaving your partner is the most dangerous time, wait until he/she is gone and then pack whatever you will need and just leave.   Good Luck and Don't forget that help is never more than a phone call away 24 / 7 / 365.

* To delete your history:  go to control panel, internet options, delete cookies, delete files, delete history.  EVERYTIME!! 
 

What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person.
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:


·Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
·Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
·Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
·Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
·Does not want you to work.
·Controls finances or refuses to share money.
·Punishes you by withholding affection.
·Expects you to ask permission.
·Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
·Humiliates you in any way.

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
·Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
·Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or Strangled you.
·Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
·Scared you by driving recklessly.
·Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
·Forced you to leave your home.
·Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
·Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
·Hurt your children.
·Used physical force in sexual situations.

You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
·Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
·Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
·Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
·Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
·Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
·Held you down during sex.
·Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
·Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
·Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
·Ignored your feelings regarding sex.
by on Jul. 19, 2008 at 7:03 PM
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autumnjoy3
by on Jul. 19, 2008 at 8:18 PM
Here is a video that will further inspire someone out there who is stuck in a Domestic Violence situation that you just can't get out of. Please follow the advice of this post and love yourself enough to get out for the sake of your children & yourself.
Garretsmom4life
by on Jul. 20, 2008 at 2:22 PM
Ditto
momlv368
by on Aug. 21, 2011 at 3:42 AM
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you rock

JodyPagaz
by on Aug. 22, 2011 at 3:30 PM
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Always glad to see volunteers, It was a Volunteer who helped and encouraged me over the phone to leave the situation I was in when I was a teenager!

DAHLONEGAMOMMY
by on Aug. 23, 2011 at 3:41 AM
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Thank You for posting this. I volunteer at my local shelter and I am sorry to say, I should have done this and didnt. So, again, Thank You. 

JBDslittlemam08
by on Aug. 23, 2011 at 3:44 AM
Yeah all 3 are present in my case. How awesome! :(
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Dimples04
by on Aug. 23, 2011 at 9:26 AM
You have an advantage, you are not alone. There are wonderful people that will help you reach a life abuse free.

Quoting JBDslittlemam08:

Yeah all 3 are present in my case. How awesome! :(
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Dimples04
by on Aug. 24, 2011 at 8:25 AM
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JodyPagaz
by on Aug. 24, 2011 at 9:21 AM

I have like 5-6 phones I am donating to a DV place. No ONE should have to endure abuse on any level!

Dimples04
by on Aug. 31, 2011 at 1:40 PM
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