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Is it normal? To feel tired being just SAHM?

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I would love to share a story. Today, we have been visiting my daughter's future school and we got lucky to meet a nice teacher, who made for us a tour. After long conversation, I asked how many kids do you have? She answered me smiling: 2, ages 6 and 2. The thing, that positively inspired me is that the teacher had her hair done, her manicure was perfect and she was dressed properly. My question is:

That normal, that I feel sleep deprived and get angry fast for small things, during the day, while raising 2 years old and 4 year old?

Am I a bad example of motherhood, in comparison to that teacher (I do not official work during the day, except for making my kids happy)? She is smiling and looks well balanced and all put together. I feel like cranky toddler next to her. I do co-sleeping, and my toddler has unpredictable sleeping habits some nights. I do the cooking, the organizing, the cleaning, personal hygiene, groceries and similar things. How come I'm not shining as she is? Do I take parenting too seriously? Or maybe she just have a full time nanny and deals with kids on "hi and good luck" basis? What do you think?
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 1:47 PM
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by on Apr. 10, 2012 at 8:14 PM
I am so happy to hear this! I hope it works out well for you! A happy mommy equals happy babies lol :)

Quoting LadyGI:

Quoting Toots789:

I was a sahm for 4 years to my two little guys and now I'm working. The difference between you and women like the teacher is that she gets breaks from her kids! When I was home, getting a break wasn't an option, I was with the kids 24/7. Now I (and other working moms) get time away. Time to calm down about whatever the kids did that morning, or what kind of craziness I'm going to come home to. You do not get that same type of break. Plus a lot of working moms feel an obligation to get even more 'me' time to get their hair and makeup done because they work. Personally I don't understand that; I belive that sahm's deserve the break, not the working ones like me :).

I made a positive improvement in our daily routine: have introduced rewards' chart and made for myself 90 minutes break ( when I put my babies to sleep). We will see how it goes, but the break time has much needed positive influence on the way I feel about parenting 24/7.

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by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 12:23 AM
Quoting Wendsdy:

I have a 2 year old and 4 year old too. I lost my job a year ago so I've been a stay at home Mom since then. Loving every minute of it...except the having no money. Its stressful and depressing. Saying that, most days, I don't get a shower. Most days as I walk through the living room, I'm hearing cheerios crunching under my feet.  When I do clean up the kids room, I walk in their rooms a minute later and everything is all over the place again.  Now keep in mind I clean once a week but that must be bad because when I'm cleaning up, my 4 year old daughter asks who is coming over. Meaning, I only straigten up when expecting someone. I rarely get a brush through my hair. I live in sweats. Sometimes I give up and just sit on the couch and look around at the mess and think....I can't clean it up again.  The other thing about your post...the teacher was expecting you. She probably got it together for the tour. Go to her house on a weekend and I bet she hasn't had a shower and she is tripping over toys :)

Thanks for putting smile in my face :)
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 12:25 AM
Quoting 081499:

It's quite simple...It's part of her job to be presentable and a good first impression of her work environment.  She's paid to look nice and have a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye.  That's not part of a SAHM's job discription.  Thankfully!!  ;)

Also, you have to remember you only saw a tiny part of her day.  It's quite possible that her morning was fully of spilled cherrios and poopy diapers and her getting up at 4 am just to look as good as she did when you met.  

I'm sure you're doing just fine, Mama.  

Thank you for positive note in your reply.
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