new to group, not sure if I should night train or wait

[EmilySusan]

Hi Ladies,

I trained my daughter using 3-day method described by Andrewsmom (thanks!) at 19 months. She was young and sleep and naps were precious to us, so we used a pull-up for nap and diaper for bed from the beginning. Still today, and she's almost 2 1/2 years old, she wakes up wet from every nap and every night of sleep. Very wet in the morning.  She never drinks anything after dinner, goes to bed about 1.5 hours to 2 hours after dinner (and I'm not comfortable witholding liquids any earlier than that), she never has accidents in the day...

The thing is I'm not entirely sure about the whole waking-her-to-pee thing.  We've had some issues in the past with very early morning wakings... has anyone had problems with these wakings for night training purposes disrupting sleep routines?  We're finally in a good place right now (2 kids under 3 in the same bedroom, it has taken some work), so I'm SO nervous about that. So many people say wait until they're dry in the morning, and she clearly is far from it.  Also, she's not in the habit of getting herself out of bed or out of her room. She's not in a crib, but she treats her bed like one and won't get out without us.  I'm not sure if we should teach her to come get us or if that will be opening a can of worms we're not ready to deal with?

 But what DOES make me want to train her for night and naps is that now, when she goes to preschool and refuses to nap, she still wets the pull-up they give her. So she's peeing in it while awake, so it's not just a question of her not waking up to pee.  What do you all think??  Do kids really get up in the night to pee and go back to bed? 2 1/2 year old kids?  Should we just wait until she can hold it through the night?  thanks.

[Andrewsmom70]

I say go ahead and night train.  If she's a heavy sleeper, she needs to learn to sleep more lightly in order to know the "need to go" feeling.  Helping her with that by waking her right before you go to bed and possibly in the middle of the night around 3AM will help her learn to sleep a little lighter and wake when she needs to go.  Give it a try and if it becomes a problem, you can always hold off.

Sounds like the daytime pull up at nap needs to go.  If she's peeing in it even when she's awake, she knows what she's doing and is doing it on purpose.  I'd get rid of it so that she won't have that crutch anymore.

Let me know if you have more questions.

[Dariensmom1]

Emily  and Andrewsmom.. I agree with taking the pull up away during her nap times. I learnt to do that with my oldest who is still learning how to be night trained. My problem is that I have both his brother and himself in the same bed so when he get's up in the night to pee he's waking up his brother which at 3am I am not willing to deal with two kids at once. Darien is doing well with staying dry all day even at preschool.. so now we have to work on this milestone and then we will be trained.