new to group...so wat to do.......

[joyce6489]

So here goea. My 3 yr old daughter has been potty trained/ing since 2. Hasn't been in a diaper since then but still wears pulluos ar night. Well during the day she seems to be wetting her undies right b4 she runs to the bathroom....i just cant take it anymore. I can wash upto 5 pairs of underwear a day and its annoying. She knows she has to go but seems to let's some out before as if she doesn't know until its on her undies,.. is this normal, ? Has anyone else dealt with this.? What should i do.? Im 6.5 months pregnant an his is totally stressing me out to the point that i get mad and feel bad after.... she says sorry and i feel bad but enough is enough.

[Andrewsmom70]

Put her in a cold shower every time she wets herself. Tell her it's to "clean her up".  If you do it consistantly, she'll learn quickly that the waiting until it's too late isn't worth the cold shower.

[joyce6489]

Hmm idk about the cold shower.kinda cruel but perhaps a shower none the less since she prefers bathz

[Andrewsmom70]

Quoting joyce6489:

Hmm idk about the cold shower.kinda cruel but perhaps a shower none the less since she prefers bathz

Honestly, if you think a cold shower is cruel, you just haven't reached your breaking point yet.  It's not punishment per se.  It's a matter of her making a choice and based on that choice having consequences.  If you let her know up front that if she decides not to get to the toilet on time then she'll have to have a cold shower to clean up, you are letting her know that her choice results in a consequence that she doesn't like.  Typically it only takes a few times of getting a cold shower to let the child know that you are serious about the consequence.  You have to be consistant with it and do the cold shower every time to make it work.

[joyce6489]

I did it twice..so far she is better but i did feel bad when she cried.i also think she is better cause i keep reminding her to go or else ...so ill see how the week plays out

[Andrewsmom70]

Quoting joyce6489:

I did it twice..so far she is better but i did feel bad when she cried.i also think she is better cause i keep reminding her to go or else ...so ill see how the week plays out

It's natural for you to feel bad.  She just needs to know that you are serious about her using the toilet.  Keep up the showers every single time and she'll get the message most likely.