...and so far we're doing good from what I can tell... this is day 1 - I put her in big girl undies this morning and explained that today she is a big girl and we're going to wear big girl undies, and I wanted her to tell me when she had to go so I could help her get her undies down & on the potty. We had a good week about a month ago, she went at least once every day on the potty but I had her in pull-ups, and she never told me when she had to go... I was just asking her every 15 min or so. After I got her in her undies & t-shirt I just waited for her to start to go in her pants. I was reading right next to her when she kind of squatted a little & had a confused look on her face, and I heard a little tinkle hit the ground. I picked her up & quickly rushed her to the potty, while praising her of course so she wouldn't be scared. She did the rest in the potty, and I made a HUGE deal out of it. She was so happy & wanted to bring her pee pee to the toilet to flush it herself. I let her, then we did the whole washing hands thing, then I gave her a Smartie & a sticker for her chart. She was AMPED UP. :) The next time she had to go she didn't tell me, but she ran over to her potty and sat there... BY HERSELF!! That's how she's been all day, ever since that 2nd time - she runs over there by herself & sits! :) We're 6 for 7 now - only ONE accident (I don't count little trickles on the way to the potty) and that was because we were outside for a second bringing the trash out & her potty wasn't close.
BUT... the problem is, she can't get the hang of pulling her pants down first. I've tried showing her on a few occasions, and she has trouble. She is 29 mo as of the 21st. She doesn't really dress/undress herself other than her shoes/socks. So I ask her to let me know when she "feels the tickle" like she has to go and I will help her pull her pants down, but she forgets... at least she's running over to the potty by herself!
SO... the question is... am I doing this right so far? How do I get her to learn to pull her pants down first? I don't know if I should count it as a "success" if she sits on the potty with her undies on & pees through them... I do anyway because there's something in the potty but I don't want her to learn that you go with your undies on.
You just have to keep helping her with the pulling underwear up and down. I'd only have her wearing underwear and maybe a shirt right now. It's easier to learn just underwear at first. Put your hands over hers and have her help you get them up and down. She'll learn. :-)
Good job so far! :-)
Thank you!!
I was on facebook today cheering for my girl every time she'd go, and a friend asked me how I'm doing it. I told them the 3 day method and I posted the link to your awesome story (in a private email) & how you did it. Thank you so much for posting your progress - it is really motivational & helped me feel like I CAN DO IT!!! ;) Let's hope she has just as good a day tomorrow.
OH! BTW by the end of the day, the last 3 trips to the potty, she ran over there by herself and called for me to come pull her pants down. I'm so proud of her!!!!!
Quoting Andrewsmom70:
You just have to keep helping her with the pulling underwear up and down. I'd only have her wearing underwear and maybe a shirt right now. It's easier to learn just underwear at first. Put your hands over hers and have her help you get them up and down. She'll learn. :-)
Good job so far! :-)
Thank you!!! Really, it's not NEARLY as bad as I expected... (knock on wood)... I hope today goes just as well if not better.
The bad thing is I forgot I have a dr. appt. tomorrow so her "3rd day" will be spent with Grammie. I explained things to her and that I'm bringing the potty, but my mom does REALLY well with her so I don't expect it to mess her up too bad... and if it does, so be it. We'll just have to call it the 4 or 5 day method. LOL! I'm fine with that. :D
Quoting mna_823:
i'm starting my 3 day method saturday. i'm really nervous to tell you the truth. but it sounds like you and your LO are doing a great job momma
Well I thought we were going to start strong but it turned out, no. :\. I'm not gonna push it though. This morning when she woke we said our "good mornings" and I asked her if she had to go potty, & she said "no". I told her "that's ok, you have a diaper on, we'll put your BIG GIRL panties on later & we'll go on the potty". Then she gave me this HUGE smile and had excitement in her eyes. I thought we were going to jump back into this full throttle. Then I was in the kitchen getting her something to drink, and she said "Uh oh, mommy, potty". I told her "That's ok, you still have your diaper on... do you want to try on the potty?" (I was also in the middle of cooking bacon and didn't want to leave it to burn to go run to the potty). At first she said no but then she said "Potty, mama" so she wanted to sit down. I got her diaper off (which I'm pretty sure she had already peed most of it) and she sat there for about 5 min and then we checked & she went a few drops. :) I praised her & we did our thing, then when I presented her with a choice of big girl undies to put on, she got really anxious and said "NO, mommy!" and started crying. (????) I have no idea where that came from. I told her "It's ok, do you want to wear a diaper for now?" and she said "Diaper." so I said, "That's ok, you can be a big girl later if you want." I put on a diaper and she's fine. *sigh*. I'm not losing hope for today though. We'll see what the next diaper change brings.
Quoting MamaLisa1976:
Yeah, no luck so far. Just a diaper day. I'm giving up and trying again Friday.
Don't give her the option of picking a diaper. Of course she's going ot pick diaper because she knows she can pee in it and not have any negative consequences. Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. During the daytime, even during naps, she should be in underwear. Yes, there will be messes but she needs to know that you are serious about potty training and that from now on using the potty is the only option. I promise you that you are not going to scar her or make her hate potty training unless you strap her to the toilet all day or hold her on until she goes or something else as ridiculous as those two things.
You've got to decide that you are going to do this and do it completely. I know you said you have a dr appointment and so you won't be able to train her but be sure not to bounce back and forth between potty training and not. Either potty training is your top priority and you expect her to use the toilet or you don't. You set the tone and if you are wishy washy about it, so will she. A lot of moms get into a viscious cycle of training, it not going as well as they think it should so they stop, then they start again, it doesn't go as quickly as they want so they stop again, and so on and so on. This cycle teaches the child that they really don't have to learn to use the potty, it's just a fad mom is going thru and if the child keeps making enough messes, the diapers come back out. It puts the child in control instead of the parent and that's a bad place to be, especially with potty training.
Please know I'm not trying to fuss at you or anything. I just want you to know that as the owner of this group, I've seen way too many moms that get into that training, no training cycle and it goes on for years sometimes. Make your mind up that you will get your child trained and if you make it a top priority, your child will follow your lead.
Hang in, you can do this! :-)
I agree. Don't make it an option or it will take forever to train her. She (and you) and do it. Keep going and before long she'll be fully trained.
No - I didn't take any of this as fussing at me - Thank you!
Yeah I think what i'm gonna do is lay low for a bit and finish the diapers I just bought and then say "that's it" so she physically sees there are no more diapers left. I have a lot of other appointments coming up in the next 2 weeks and I don't want that to mess it up. I'm sure I'll be out of these diapers in 2 weeks though... but then we have Thanksgiving & Christmas coming too.. I don't know if I should wait until after the Holidays, but then little baby in my belly is coming in Feb. so I don't have much choice. :\ I really don't care if I have 2 in diapers, but my girl will be 3 months short of 3 years old when lil' one comes, and I just feel like now is the time. It sucks that it's right around the Holidays when there's a lot of hectic stuff going on.
Quoting Andrewsmom70:
Quoting MamaLisa1976:
Yeah, no luck so far. Just a diaper day. I'm giving up and trying again Friday.
Don't give her the option of picking a diaper. Of course she's going ot pick diaper because she knows she can pee in it and not have any negative consequences. Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. During the daytime, even during naps, she should be in underwear. Yes, there will be messes but she needs to know that you are serious about potty training and that from now on using the potty is the only option. I promise you that you are not going to scar her or make her hate potty training unless you strap her to the toilet all day or hold her on until she goes or something else as ridiculous as those two things.You've got to decide that you are going to do this and do it completely. I know you said you have a dr appointment and so you won't be able to train her but be sure not to bounce back and forth between potty training and not. Either potty training is your top priority and you expect her to use the toilet or you don't. You set the tone and if you are wishy washy about it, so will she. A lot of moms get into a viscious cycle of training, it not going as well as they think it should so they stop, then they start again, it doesn't go as quickly as they want so they stop again, and so on and so on. This cycle teaches the child that they really don't have to learn to use the potty, it's just a fad mom is going thru and if the child keeps making enough messes, the diapers come back out. It puts the child in control instead of the parent and that's a bad place to be, especially with potty training.
Please know I'm not trying to fuss at you or anything. I just want you to know that as the owner of this group, I've seen way too many moms that get into that training, no training cycle and it goes on for years sometimes. Make your mind up that you will get your child trained and if you make it a top priority, your child will follow your lead.
Hang in, you can do this! :-)
Quoting MamaLisa1976:
No - I didn't take any of this as fussing at me - Thank you!
Yeah I think what i'm gonna do is lay low for a bit and finish the diapers I just bought and then say "that's it" so she physically sees there are no more diapers left. I have a lot of other appointments coming up in the next 2 weeks and I don't want that to mess it up. I'm sure I'll be out of these diapers in 2 weeks though... but then we have Thanksgiving & Christmas coming too.. I don't know if I should wait until after the Holidays, but then little baby in my belly is coming in Feb. so I don't have much choice. :\ I really don't care if I have 2 in diapers, but my girl will be 3 months short of 3 years old when lil' one comes, and I just feel like now is the time. It sucks that it's right around the Holidays when there's a lot of hectic stuff going on.
Why wait until the diapers are gone? Just go ahead and bite the bullet and do it! :-)
Honestly, there will never be a perfect time to fully devote to potty training but as I said, if you want it to be done pretty quickly, you'll have to just bite the bullet and focus on it.
The longer you wait and the closer it gets to the new baby coming and the greater the chance your older child will totally regress and refuse to use the toilet once the new baby comes. So, go ahead and make it a top priority now and just get it done so there will be less of a chance of regression when the new baby comes. :-)
Potty training gone wrong!
- MamaLisa1976
on Oct. 26, 2010 at 4:41 PM