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GRRRR!!!! 2 steps forward 3 steps back (vent)

Posted by on Mar. 11, 2011 at 6:05 PM
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Why is it my eldest is a perpetual cycle of 2 steps forward 3 steps back but my youngest trained herself?

As of right now, my eldest has stopped having accidents at school but she has the poop accidents at home all the time. I've tried everything else so I decided to try rewarding my youngest everytime my eldest had an accident, seemed fair to me and it pisses my eldest off, so I was hopeful it would work. but my youngest is quickly earning quarters and there is no stopping my eldest. 

I'm going to try poop jail AGAIN during Spring Break (2nd week in April). If it doesn't work this time it's going to be a long summer of no swimming for her till she stops, IDK what else to do.

She has an accident I just tell her in a bland voice to go get cleaned up, thinking maybe it's an attention thing with her. I even tried to reward her with extra special mommy time and it worked for a few days but then back we slide. I'm going to talk to her pediatrician about it again but the fact that she can go long enough to get a reward and almost instantly slide back says to me she is in control of this problem. 

I just recently found out I'm pregnant again and the two of them are so excited over it. I've asked her if she is planning to still have accidents when the baby comes and she's told me no. She starts kindergarten in September and I'm worried that she's not going to be seen as the smart little girl she is because of this. Her Pre-K teachers don't understand why she does this because they see how smart she is (it's been brought to my attention).

It's frustrating and at this point IDK why I'm here except I really needed to vent, because I want to stay consistent and not be reactive, so instead I came here, LoL.

~TTFN~

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by on Mar. 11, 2011 at 6:05 PM
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Andrewsmom70
by Group Owner on Mar. 16, 2011 at 9:06 PM

Go buy a jewelry making kit and give her a bead to go on the piece of jewelry every time she goes 3 or 4 days without a mess.  As time goes on, increase the time between times she gets a bead.  Then when there are enough beads to make a necklace or bracelet for her, she can wear it and if she messes, take it away from her and make her earn it back.

mna_823
by on Mar. 17, 2011 at 12:42 PM

 

Quoting Andrewsmom70:

Go buy a jewelry making kit and give her a bead to go on the piece of jewelry every time she goes 3 or 4 days without a mess.  As time goes on, increase the time between times she gets a bead.  Then when there are enough beads to make a necklace or bracelet for her, she can wear it and if she messes, take it away from her and make her earn it back.

   I LOVE this idea!

LuckyMissy3
by on Mar. 17, 2011 at 1:48 PM
Quoting Andrewsmom70:

Go buy a jewelry making kit and give her a bead to go on the piece of jewelry every time she goes 3 or 4 days without a mess.  As time goes on, increase the time between times she gets a bead.  Then when there are enough beads to make a necklace or bracelet for her, she can wear it and if she messes, take it away from her and make her earn it back.




What a wonderful idea! Love it! I just started my 2 yr old son with the penny for a potty he loves it. He didn't seem to care about the treats any more but he is doing wonderful!
Tempest41
by Member on Mar. 17, 2011 at 5:24 PM

I'll give it a shot, I actually was thinking of tring to offer her an incentive of every day she doesn't, giving her a quarter and seeing if that combined w/ Ally getting money for everytime she does... IDK forward, backward, round and round... I'm tired of this issue, LoL

Tempest41
by Member on May. 2, 2011 at 1:47 PM

Went to her 5 yr check up and talked to her pediatrician he decided to try Miralax because maybe it's a constipation related issue. It gives her diahrea (well it did when was a higher dose), but it does seem to be helping she's jumping up and going potty on her own more frequetly. accidents are still happening but less frequently.. The other doctor (Starra had strep recently) said that it should be rectified by the time she starts Kindergarten and that once she seems I can taper off the med in a few weeks and see what happens but if she starts to seem like there is an issue again to give her it again...

Hopefully this is the solution and the cause was constipation related (although she's had a x-ray for this and she was clear then)

poppys_mommy
by on May. 3, 2011 at 12:16 PM

Glad that it's improving!  I hope this takes care of the problem.

Quoting Tempest41:

Went to her 5 yr check up and talked to her pediatrician he decided to try Miralax because maybe it's a constipation related issue. It gives her diahrea (well it did when was a higher dose), but it does seem to be helping she's jumping up and going potty on her own more frequetly. accidents are still happening but less frequently.. The other doctor (Starra had strep recently) said that it should be rectified by the time she starts Kindergarten and that once she seems I can taper off the med in a few weeks and see what happens but if she starts to seem like there is an issue again to give her it again...

Hopefully this is the solution and the cause was constipation related (although she's had a x-ray for this and she was clear then)


Tempest41
by Member on May. 3, 2011 at 8:18 PM

I hope so too but so far it doesn't seem to be


Tempest41
by Member on May. 17, 2011 at 4:33 PM

Shh... it seems to be getting better. 2 weeks straight and no accidents at all... 3 months and none at school... We aren't making a big deal out of it because that seems to be a trigger... Only thing we are doing is if we see her start wiggling and she's playing we tell her to go... Although her new thing is to say she's got to go and waits for us to tell her it's ok at dinner time or after she's gone to bed.

mna_823
by on May. 18, 2011 at 11:49 AM

 I'm glad it seems to be working.  DD does the wait to go until meal time too.  drives me nuts!

Tempest41
by Member on May. 23, 2011 at 2:16 PM
3 weeks she went 3 weeks this time... The difference this time though is it seems she is farting and some poop comes out... Gonna give her some more miralax for a couple days and see if it helps... Sigh it's just 3 weeks I was getting so proud of her... Really wish she wouldn't sit in it though...
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