where to start?

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  • ajswenson
  on Sep. 23, 2009 at 10:43 PM

• Most boys aren't ready until 3 so if he isn't showing a real interest you might just be spinning your wheels.  Also with a new one so close, he could regress after the baby is born and you could be starting all over. ???? But where to start, I think asking him if he wants to wear big boy pants.  This is assuming he understands that big people use the toilet. 
  

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  • Andrewsmom70
  on Sep. 24, 2009 at 9:35 PM

• I totally disagree with the previous poster.  Most kids can be successfully potty trained once they hit 18 months but a lot more people these days use pull ups and that only prolongs the whole potty training process.  There's a lot of research on the history of potty training and it shows that society has basically gotten more lazy about potty training and even 20 or 30 years ago kids were trained way earlier than they are now. Gender doesn't really make a difference in success of potty training.  It's more based on individual differences and not gender.

  Here's what I did to train my son when he was 23 months: http://www.cafemom.com/group/562/forums/read/4235060/3_Day_Potty_Training_Post.  He did a great job and it worked great for us.

  Let me know if you have questions.

  
  
  
  

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  • newmama07
  on Sep. 27, 2009 at 11:52 PM

• Im having the same problem... my son just doesnt seem to get that when he needs to go he needs to tell me, daddy, or the babysitter.

  to andrewsmom70 - thats great that it worked for you... but not all of us can just take 3 days off of work to potty train without it being frowned upon... possibly losing our jobs.... any other suggestions?
  

  Quoting Andrewsmom70:
  
  

  I totally disagree with the previous poster.  Most kids can be successfully potty trained once they hit 18 months but a lot more people these days use pull ups and that only prolongs the whole potty training process.  There's a lot of research on the history of potty training and it shows that society has basically gotten more lazy about potty training and even 20 or 30 years ago kids were trained way earlier than they are now. Gender doesn't really make a difference in success of potty training.  It's more based on individual differences and not gender.

  Here's what I did to train my son when he was 23 months: http://www.cafemom.com/group/562/forums/read/4235060/3_Day_Potty_Training_Post.  He did a great job and it worked great for us.

  Let me know if you have questions.

  
  

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  • Andrewsmom70
  on Sep. 29, 2009 at 10:44 AM

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  Quoting newmama07:
  
  

  Im having the same problem... my son just doesnt seem to get that when he needs to go he needs to tell me, daddy, or the babysitter.

  to andrewsmom70 - thats great that it worked for you... but not all of us can just take 3 days off of work to potty train without it being frowned upon... possibly losing our jobs.... any other suggestions?

  You don't have to take 3 days off of work.  You can take one day off and do either all day Friday, all day Saturday and all day Sunday or all day Saturday, all day Sunday and all day Monday.

  
  
  
  

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  • saritav73
  on Oct. 9, 2009 at 11:13 AM

• Well here is my story: The first thing I did was  start showing my dauhter how to use the potty.  If they sit there and they don't do anything, I think it's ok.  But they are learning the concept of peeing in the potty.

  My daughter started off this way for months at a time.  She would sit there in the potty and never pee.  So I wouldn't pressure her or anything, I would try everday for a week or so, and if there was nothing,  I would stop for two weeks and retry again.  (I think this is good for them and for you, so you don't get too frustrated) 

  Then I read an article about pulling the diapers off, and leaving them without them and getting them to sit on the potty every once in a while.  Tried that for a couple of weeks and nothing.  My daughter would actually hold her pee, and then beg me for the diaper.  I just felt she wasn't ready, and waited and tried again.  I tried talking to my daughter and explaining to her a little everyday, that she needed to pee in the potty.  One day to my surprise (when she was about 2 and 2 months old), when I told her to pee in the potty, VOILA!  she just started peeing, and of course I celebrated!!  did the pee pee in the potty dance, rewarded her with a lollipop, made sure she knew she did a great thing, and after that she has been peeing non stop since. (note: my daughter kept pulling her diapers off on her own when they were full of pee, this was a big sign to me, and around this time is when this happened) I don't even tell her and she now pees all on her own.  (pooping is a different story, but I think patience is key, they will do it when they are ready, just dont give up, and dont get frustrated or they will sense it)

  So teach, try again, wait, teach, try again, wait and don't feel pressured to meet a deadline.  This is some of the things I tried and worked for me, but I know each baby is different with its own personality.  Hope all the things you try will bring you success in training your little one. 

   

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  • Jaedynnsmommy
  on Oct. 11, 2009 at 11:09 PM

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  Quoting saritav73:
  
  

  Well here is my story: The first thing I did was  start showing my dauhter how to use the potty.  If they sit there and they don't do anything, I think it's ok.  But they are learning the concept of peeing in the potty.

  My daughter started off this way for months at a time.  She would sit there in the potty and never pee.  So I wouldn't pressure her or anything, I would try everday for a week or so, and if there was nothing,  I would stop for two weeks and retry again.  (I think this is good for them and for you, so you don't get too frustrated) 

  Then I read an article about pulling the diapers off, and leaving them without them and getting them to sit on the potty every once in a while.  Tried that for a couple of weeks and nothing.  My daughter would actually hold her pee, and then beg me for the diaper.  I just felt she wasn't ready, and waited and tried again.  I tried talking to my daughter and explaining to her a little everyday, that she needed to pee in the potty.  One day to my surprise (when she was about 2 and 2 months old), when I told her to pee in the potty, VOILA!  she just started peeing, and of course I celebrated!!  did the pee pee in the potty dance, rewarded her with a lollipop, made sure she knew she did a great thing, and after that she has been peeing non stop since. (note: my daughter kept pulling her diapers off on her own when they were full of pee, this was a big sign to me, and around this time is when this happened) I don't even tell her and she now pees all on her own.  (pooping is a different story, but I think patience is key, they will do it when they are ready, just dont give up, and dont get frustrated or they will sense it)

  So teach, try again, wait, teach, try again, wait and don't feel pressured to meet a deadline.  This is some of the things I tried and worked for me, but I know each baby is different with its own personality.  Hope all the things you try will bring you success in training your little one. 

   

  My situation parallels yours alot..My dd is 2 years and 3 months old. For the last 3 months she constantly tells me that she doesnt want a diaper and if I ask her if she wants to use the potty she says yes. I put her on it for about 3-5 minutes and nothing..She undresses herself all day long..If she can find a way to get out of my sight for more then 2 minutes she comes back naked..She hates wet diapers..As soon as she poops she tells me she stinks..And she wont keep a diaper on even if she's only peed once in it..I give her naked time every day and she manages to hold it in until my attention is diverted to her 9 month old sister to pee on her bed, or even on her floor by her bed..I'm trying not to lose my patience..She sits on the potty, knows how to flush, even knows that she is suppose to wipe herself but yet still wont pee in the potty..Hearing your story has given me some new hope..But I'm afraid it will all be all for nothing because I start working full time this week and won't be here..My dh will be trying to get them ready for the babysitter and doing odds and ends around the house to notice to do potty training...
  

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  • MiraclesMommy26
  on Nov. 5, 2009 at 1:50 AM

• I designate potty times. Before and after naps and after eating. I have a tendency to forget the "before" naps, but I'm very good at after..... It's also a matter of learning the schedule of ur child and the triggers. My daughter is "poopy" trained, but not potty.... She usually has to poopy at the end of her meals and for some reason when she gets into the bath! LOL So, that's when we spend the most time on the potty. It takes 5-10 minutes, sometimes, but she'll go! I also give her a toy to play with so she'll sit longer.

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  • lelandsmommy06
  on Nov. 11, 2009 at 12:54 AM

• the way i potty trianed my son was i just took away diaperwe had to clean alot of undies lol but i asked him pretty much ever 15 mins if he had to go potty and putt him on potty every 20 mins and then i started  putting food coloring in the toilet or i let him help me put it in the toilet and he like going potty and changing the color it took awhile and alot of washing undies but he is 90% potty trainded i started a month b4 his bday in sept but now he tells us he has to go potty and even stands and goes potty now heeven goes by himself now hes not 100% poop trained and not at night we put a pull up on him at night  i hope this helps a lil good luck

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