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  • mjcathy
  on Jul. 13, 2009 at 11:14 AM

• I completely loved this book.  I finished it in a marathon session on Sunday while I finished the laundry.  I couldn't put it down and can't wait to read the sequel.

   

  I think C's reaction to B's article was completely believable.  I think her emotions were so raw and hurt that she would have been blinded to the kindnesses he wrote later in the article. 

   

  I liked the way Maki and C met.  I thought it was fun and entertaining.  I did think the rest of the day was unbelievable though.  Especially when they ended up at the bar that M was supposed to be at.  Someone at the bar would have known about the upcoming "photo op". 

   

  Having experienced postpartum depression and then major depression I related to what C was going through during the distress after the baby was born.  When I experienced it, it was all encompassing and required months of therapy covering abuse in my childhood as well as other things.  I also have to be vigilant now to the signs of depression even though my youngest child is 19 years old. 

   

  I think the meeting in the airport was so heated and hurtful because of the treatment she received from her father.  The verbal abuse from him affected all C's relationships with men. 

   

  I was disappointed that she gained all the weight back at the end of the book.  I thought it would have been more believable it she had learned to eat healthily for her daughter.  I was also surprised to find out she was only a size 16.  The way the book described it I thought she was also 400 lbs.  I don't think she would have qualified for the drug study at a 16. 

   

  I don't have any thoughts on why her Mother turned into a lesbian or was that way all the time.  I focused more on the unhealthy relationship between her and Tanya.  Tanya was just as controlling as her husband and wanted to shut out the kids. 

   

  I think C didn't like T because of the controlling issue.  I think her attitude changed because of two things.  First, C learned that she could only control her own emotions and actions.  And Second Tanya softened after the distress C went through. 

   

  My favorite side character in the story was Dr. K.  I would have loved to learn more about him.  I loved the way he courted C. 

   

  I was confused about C's first "date" after B.  I never understood why he changed his mind after going out with her.  They were having such a good time. 

   

  Were you surprised that Maxi set C up with the same publicist that humiliated her on the day of their first meeting?

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  • camiam81
  on Jul. 15, 2009 at 4:03 PM

• I'm not surprised that Maxi set Connie up with the same publicist.  That's who she knows and trusts, even if she's a pain in the butt.

  Did you like the book?  Will you read others by Jennifer Weiner?  If you read others by her, did you like them as much, better, or less?

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  • mupt02
  on Jul. 15, 2009 at 10:03 PM

• Like the pp said, I am not surprised about Maxi setting up Cannie with the same publisher.  You use who you know and trust.  She may have an attitude, but if she gets the job done, sometimes it is worth it.

  I did like the book.  I was a little disturbed by the thought of a size 16 being considered fat and honestly have to say that if they would have said her size earlier, I might have stopped reading it.  Being a size 16-18 myself, I don't consider myself fat.  I don't feel like society is against me.  I have read 2 other books of hers.  Little Earthquakes was pretty good.  I didn't like her short story book.  I can't even remember the name of it now.  I don't know if I just don't like short stories or if it was the way she writes them, but I just couldn't get into it.

  Do you think Cannie's siblings turned out the way they did because of their father leaving and their mother loving a woman or do you think they would have turned out this way no matter what circumstances they grew up in?

                            

  
  

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  • almemoore
  on Jul. 22, 2009 at 8:15 AM

• I can't figure out how to copy more than one into a reply, so here goes!

  I liked this book...it was a little raunchy at first and I wasn't expecting it, but it ended up being good. 

  I think her siblings are the way they are because of their father.  He was rotten and should have stayed away and never came back to torment them! :-(

  The publiscist that Maxi set Cannie up with was Violet, not April the nasty B&%$h from the day they met.  And it would be normal to set up your friend with someone you are already working with.

  I think maybe Cannie's mom was a lesbian all along, but never realized it until later in life...I know women like that...who marry and have children, and can never figure out why it doesn't seem right until the "ah-ha"

  I kept waiting for that guy to pop up later on in the book...the one she left in the resturant....He was a great guy, and liked her, just not in a romantic way...I think she should have waited to find out more about him.

  The depression....YES! Her just walking and not remembering IS possible!! My first baby was taken to the nicu right after he was born and I developed PPD and left it go seemingly unnoticed and untreated for 6 months...to this day there is a year long chunk of time I do not remember.  I never did anything like she did, but it is possible.
  

  Hmmm what else...I LOVED Dr. K and Maxi! They were great characters and were really great friends to her. I hated Bruce...he was a wimp, and lived in "never, never land" with his no real job, living with his mom and smoking pot.  I am SO glad C finally realized she didn't need him!!

  What did you think about Audrey being a part of Joy's life?
  

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  • 2ajsmommy
  on Jul. 22, 2009 at 5:23 PM

• i do think c. should have read the article all the way through before freaking out but i dont blame her for reaction. those were private moments whether you had a messy break-up or a clean one

  i love that she met maxie. they were so good for each other. maxie learned how to be a regular person while cannie learned to take up for herself.

  i have experienced the sorrow and rage cannie had after joy was born. it had nothing to do with a baby but it did have to do with a man. there are some that can lift you up and then of course every one has a man that just brings her down and percieves to rip her heart out but why should he stop there, he should go ahead and cut it into pieces too. i did walk alot, i couldnt eat, i couldnt sleep. it was like i was in a daze or trance. i can completely relate to how she felt and i dont disagree with the way she reacted.

  if her father wouldnt have turned his back on her i think she would have still been angry at bruce. she tried to include him without trapping him and he still cowered away to the girl with the caterpillar brows. i just dont think she would have been as angry as she had been

  i really dont think she was as big as she thought herself to be or if she was she was built like queen latifa or someone like that. i dont think she was what she made herself out to be. i dont think most of these problems in the book were weight-related but i do think that she would have a problem and then turn it against herself to make it weight-related.i think her weight gain to become healthy again was realistic. like dr k said some woman are not meant to be skinny and i think cannie is one of those women.

  i think cannies mom was always a lesbian. i remember in the book how she wouldnt show much affection to her husband before he left them. i just think back when they did get married it was considered unacceptable to be homosexual so therefore she covered the fact that she was up and the fact that she was jewish probably didnt help the acceptance of homosexuality either.

  i dont think she never really hated tonya. i do think that she wasnt ready for all this to come out and the fact that her mom just blurted it out didnt help either. i think she felt that tonya was invading her space by taking over her childhood room. also maybe she thought tonya was taking advantage of her mom a little before she really go to know what she was about.. i think she finally accepted tonya after all her breakdown bc tonya showed that she wanted to be there for cannie and wanted cannie to accept her. she wanted cannie to know that she did care about her and her siblings.

  i loved dr k. he was smart, funny, accepting. he was everything cannie needed and wanted. he was also there at her lowest time in her life and thats what won me over

  if a guy wouldve asked me out to dinner and a movie, i wouldve assumed it was a date too. regardless of whether he said he made it clear or not. he did make it clear enough obviously. and men say we are confusing.

  i think she finally learned to accept her body but i dont think it was just about that. she needed to accept herself as a person, physically, personality and all.

  no i wasnt surprised. even though she was a bitch, her company was the best.

  i loved this book and i will be reading others by weiner. ive bought the books but havent read them yet

  i think their father had alot to do with how her siblings turned out. they were all trying to get attention all in their each individual ways whether it be positive or negative attention, as long as they go it. i dont think they would have turned out if their father was loving. part of the reason im the way i am is bc of my dad, i believe that your parents have alot of affect on the way you live you life and how you become.

  i think it was good that cannie let audrey be in joy's life regardless of whether she was bruce's mother or not. she was a good person, not to mention a good grandmother. she was there when cannie needed her most and that to me is what makes a good friend.

   

  how do you think this book could have been better?

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  • Drewbiesmom1207
  on Jul. 29, 2009 at 10:52 AM
• I believe Cannie's reaction to Bruce's article was a little over the top. I do believe she should have lightened up after she read the whole article. Cannie meeting Maxi was so quick, most great friendships take time to grow. I have kind of experienced the sorrow not the rage she felt before. When I was 8 months pregnant with my son I tripped over a grooming table at work and landed right on my stomach. I was calm but inside my heart was breaking. I was so scared for my son and I felt so horrible that I could be so clumsy and could possibly be losing my son. Thankfully he was just fine and he is a happy healthy 20 month old now! I think Cannie handled it the only way she thought she could. She was too angry to see that Joy needed her to be strong and take care of herself. I do think if her father wouldn't have been such a jerk to her that she would have kept her composure a little better with Bruce at the airport and maybe staved off the argument with E. But Bruce was a jerk too so I think that eventually she would have gone off on him anyway. I was glad that she saw she didn't need to be super thin to be happy. Not everyone fits into the same body. Honestly none of her problems were really weight related. Except with her father because he was a jerk. But he was really a jerk to all three of them so she could have just let it roll off her back that he would comment about her weight. It is realistic and appropriate for her character. She wanted to lose weight to look good to other people when she was happy being herself. Cannie's mom turning lesbian after all those years was due to losing her faith in men. The reason I say that is because she seemed to be happy when the kids were young because even Cannie commented on the great times they had as a family when they were very young. But I also think that she had fallen in love with a woman because it was different and that she truly cared for Tanya. I think that Cannie didn't like Tanya because of two things. One she moved in so fast and two she grew up in a Jewish communtiy. She didn't truly give her a chance until after her breakdown because of the same reasons. My favorite character was Peter just because he was a good patient man and he loved Cannie just the way she was. I think Cannie's first date after Bruce was a jerk too. You don't ask someone to dinner only to say it's not a date. I think he asked her out because she was friendly and he was new in town so he thought she would be a good source to see what it was like to live there. I really believed that Cannie learned to accept her body in the end.I'm not surprised that Maxi set Cannie up with the same publicist. She knew that she was good at what she did. I did like this book and I plan to read the sequel to this book very soon. I believe that everyone has choices in life. I'm sure it didn't help Cannie and her siblings that their father was a jerk and that their mother was a lesbian which was not like how all their friends families were but that doesn't mean you can't choose to live differently. I think that Audrey being a part of Joy's life is fantastic! She was a good woman and had a right to see her granddaughter even though her son wanted no part in his daughter's life. I think the book could've been better if it told more about her selling her screenplay and going from there. Do you think if Joy would have been born naturally and healthy that Cannie would have discovered that she was truly happy with herself no matter how she looked?

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  • 07gradmom
  on Aug. 22, 2009 at 2:31 PM

• I know i am way late but I loved this book. :)

  I think Cannie was right to be totally mad about what Bruce wrote about her. he said a few good things about her, but as anyone that's insecure about anything, the negative stuck in her mind the most.

  Do you think Cannie had fears that Joy would be just like her?

  I'm Wrae. I have three kids.. Cameron (4), Julian (3) and Lillian ( 1 year). I work full time as an addictions counselor and love it. I am 26 years old. I am biracial. I did not breast feed, used disposable diapers, vaccinated all three kids, do not co-sleep ,and my house is never clean. I am from Kentucky and love it, but I am not a stereotypical Kentuckian.

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