My FIL called me a bad mom...(piog)

I'm so sorry you were told something as awful as that... you are right ~ saying that you are a bad mom b/c of the tings you have discribed is ridiculous!

 Like you said - a lot of moms do those things...  I dislike taking my children to the store.  I'd just rather "not "my son is ADHD and it is really hard.

You are not a bad mom at all. By staying home with your children it shows that you are a great mom!  I have always requested that family call prior to all visits like you said - common courtesy!!

I think your FIL is really rude and should give you a face to face apology!!!

Life is wondeful and should be plesant!! Breath out Bumble Bee's,  Breath in Butterflies

Thank you so much. I do agree that he needs to apoligize to me in person. But to be honest. Im not sure if it will actually make it any better. Ya know?

Quoting Hannabelles_Mom:

I'm so sorry you were told something as awful as that... you are right ~ saying that you are a bad mom b/c of the tings you have discribed is ridiculous!

 Like you said - a lot of moms do those things...  I dislike taking my children to the store.  I'd just rather "not "my son is ADHD and it is really hard.

You are not a bad mom at all. By staying home with your children it shows that you are a great mom!  I have always requested that family call prior to all visits like you said - common courtesy!!

I think your FIL is really rude and should give you a face to face apology!!!

Life is wondeful and should be plesant!! Breath out Bumble Bee's,  Breath in Butterflies

oh blah to your FIL!!!!!  He will never understand, because he will never live in your shoes. You are not a bad mother because of such silly unimportant things such as a clean spotless house or for your kids falling asleep and you not jumping and cleaning them and moving them right away. How ridiculous, I am sorry that he upset you - at least your hubby stood up for you!!  My own father always has something to say about the way I raise my children and he was never home when we were little, he traveled for work on oil rigs for months at a time and we stayed home w/my mom - and he still thinks he knows how to do a better job, even though he has NEVER done it.  Just take it with a grain of salt, as hard as that can be, dont let him get to you.  Good luck and try not to let this ruin your day!!!!

My mom told my son that I'm a bad mom..........why??  Because my teenage sister is a nasty little mess of ......well, she likes to cry wolf to get attention, and I will not allow my kids around her, but I let my brother, who's biggest problems are he's gay, and he didn't kiss mom's you know what!  She herself was no mother of the year when I was a kid, and chances are, your FIL has no room to talk, either!  I've gotten to the point that I ignore it......it is hard, but I consider the source and it doesn't bother me one bit, especially since I know that, although my house may not be close to spotless, and my kids may have strong opinions and sometimes state them, we're not perfect....no one is, but they are happy and healthy, and that's what counts.  I'm doing a better job than she ever did!  And yes, I did say she told my son, who btw is only 10!  WTG MOM!!!

Seriously, I would just ignore it, maybe tell him if you want his opinion, you'll ask for it!

WOW. THAT WOULD BE HURTFUL EVEN MORE. IM TRYING TO NOT LET IT GET TO ME. I REALLY AM. AND MY FIL DONT HAVE ROOM TO TALK. BECAUSE UNLIKE HIM...I CAN PIN POINT THINGS THAT MAKE HIM A BAD FATHER FOR REALS. BUT IM NOT THAT MEAN TO FAMILY. IM JUST GONNA DO LIKE YOU SAID AND JUST LET IT SLIDE. I DONT NEED HIS APPROVEL ON HOW I RAISE MY KIDS. THEY ARE HEALTY AND HAPPY. I MUST NOT BE DOING A BAD JOB. HE CAN GO TAKE A HIKE. LOL. THANKS. 

Quoting mommyofj.a.b.:

My mom told my son that I'm a bad mom..........why??  Because my teenage sister is a nasty little mess of ......well, she likes to cry wolf to get attention, and I will not allow my kids around her, but I let my brother, who's biggest problems are he's gay, and he didn't kiss mom's you know what!  She herself was no mother of the year when I was a kid, and chances are, your FIL has no room to talk, either!  I've gotten to the point that I ignore it......it is hard, but I consider the source and it doesn't bother me one bit, especially since I know that, although my house may not be close to spotless, and my kids may have strong opinions and sometimes state them, we're not perfect....no one is, but they are happy and healthy, and that's what counts.  I'm doing a better job than she ever did!  And yes, I did say she told my son, who btw is only 10!  WTG MOM!!!

Seriously, I would just ignore it, maybe tell him if you want his opinion, you'll ask for it!

If it makes you feel better, my son fell asleep on the tolit when he was a toddler. 
Know that you are not alone.  And don't let him get to you.  ;)

After reading your post, my first thought was how wonderful it was that your husband went over there in your defense.  I loved it.  If your husband supports you and is willing to stand up against you, don't worry about who is against you.  You do you.  Be the mom you have learned to be.  My kids are 15 and 9 and I to this day don't like taking them to the store because they ask for everything.  My husband falls asleep on the toilet and I don't wake him.  LOL 

OMG. THERE WERE TWO REPLIES OF FALLING ASLEEP ON THE POT. THATS SO FUNNY. THANKS EVERYONE.

Paleeze!!  Tell him where to go!!  Im  so glad my in-laws live in another country! 
My FIL is the same way and acts like the king of England.
Actually we are not speaking right now because I told him he nor his wife are allowed to come into my home and nit pick my children apart again and if they couldnt then they could stay at a hotel.
It didnt go over well.  But it is the way I feel and I demand respect.  Sorry to say but most men of that generation dont have a clue.  I dont have time to wait on anyone hand and foot except my babies and he can deal with it or not!!  His loss not mine and the same for you.  All that your FIL jsut did was drive a wedge in between you, the kids and him. 
You are a great Mom and good lawdy the number of times my kids have fallen asleep in their food.  and I have a hard time taking my 2 kids out but I do it but I have a 6 year old to help me.....you....I totally understand you not wanting to get out with them.
Just feel good about who you are.  These are just tests to remind yourself of who you are and to feel good about it.  Be a proud Mama of all those babies.  You deserve it!!

You are not a bad mother. I have three children and they all fell asleep in their high chair. I thought it was so cute but at the same time when they fell asleep it gave me some quiet time. Many people do not understand how hard it is when you have very young children. As far as your in laws are concerned just let that negative energy go. The next time a comment is made just dont entertain it you are better off. if your husband stands by you thats all that matters. Last but not least I would not mention some things to your husband this will only cause family conflict.