What do your family say about your natural hair?
My mother asked me why I don’t relax my daughters hair? I told her for one she’s too young for one (three years old) two I don’t want to use chemicals on her hair which leads to breakage, all all the drama that goes with it never again. That was the first time I was asked. I told my family about it months ago but I guess they thought I would revert back to the relaxer. How do family members or friends handle your decision about going natural? I’m going to stay natural regardless of what comments or stupid questions I’m asked. Shoot it takes a strong, confident woman to rock a natual style. I don’t undetstand what the big deal is. Anyways any stories and/or advice would help me.
Quoting mamabliss:
My grandmother has an aversion to naps of any kind. lol
Most of her complaints are directed at my daughter's hair but she hasn't said anything negative in a while.
Most of my other family members are natural too so they don't ever have anything negative to say.
I just noticed your profile pic and I'm wondering how long did it take you to grow your dreads? I think that they are beautiful. I wish most of my family members were natural.
My mother and three sisters thought I was nutty as a fruitcake when I went natural for the first time (8 years ago). Now, I officially have a mother and two sisters who have all taken the natural plunge because they realized relaxers are just not where it's at. My one sis is in denial and would rather keep her hair in a curly weave or in micro-braids (go figure).
I went natural almost five years ago now. Initially when I expressed to my mother and father that I wanted locs, they were against it saying that its not professional and its dirty. Can you say MISEDUCATION!!!! I thought locs were the most beautiful expression of natural hair and I still do (any natural hair style is the most beautiful expression of love for self). So I said "PUH-Leeese!" to there answer and loc'd anyways using the bradelocz method. My man LOVED LOVED LOVED it when I did afro puffs (while transitioning). He actually misses them. But i quell him by doing loc puffs. IF you guys wanna see pics ( i haven't updated since December) take a look at my blog
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Quoting MrsCEllis:
All the women in my family think I have lost my mind. I have only been transitioning for 4 months and they keep dropping hints that I "need a perm". My sister even gave me a gift cert to get my hair done for my b-day! She thought I wasn't getting a touch-up because I was low on extra funds. When I explained to her that I wasn't getting a touch-up ON PURPOSE, the look on her face was total shock and disbelief. She even called me a Black Panther! I can't wait to see what happens when I do the big chop. My husband loves that I am going natural and wants to play in my hair all the time now! He's so cute!
Girl, I'm with you, lol...I started transitioning in April of last year, and I too got the "you need a perm" hints from my fam. Then in September, I asked my Mom to cut my perm off, (mind you, my mom is one of those sisters with the permed, BLONDE hair, who will get a touch up if she sees the slightest curl) lol, she asked me if I was depressed and wouldn't do it..so I grabbed the clippers and took a chunk out, and she flipped out, but did it anyway...Now my hair is healthier than it has ever been and my husband loves to play in my hair(which is already back to where it was when I cut it).
The funny part is that my mom's hair began to come out (wonder why?) and I convinced her to cut hers...she did good for about 2 months and when I saw her again, she was fried and dyed. *sigh*....I caught her looking at my hair with envy though, and I had to tease her.
I can't wait to add photos of me with natural hair....Had pics of transition/big chop/and now, but that camera was stolen.
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I haven't heard anything from them about me going natural not to my face anyway, i wouldn't care what they had to say because i do what i want to my hair, my mom has went natural also Woop woop. But my hubby love my natural look and so do i :)
My sister thinks I am crazy she loves her relaxer and big HEAVY weaves. My mother decided to go natural too. My husband loves it (which I was afraid he wouldnt becauselyhe's white) I figured he would freak out when I started cutting it off. But it is his family that is having the issues which is funny to me because they wont say anything but I catch them staring.
My family has no problem with it. My daughter loves it, and so does my boyfriend. He had a problem when I shaved it completely bald. But since it has grown back he loves it!
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- MrsFaulk80
on Apr. 5, 2008 at 12:07 AM