To sit still or not to sit still that is the question

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  • terrie88
  on Dec. 15, 2008 at 2:59 PM

• WOW JUST THIS MORNING MY SONS TEACHER IS GOING TO GET THE FITNESS BALL FOR HIM HE IS ADHD AND CANNOT SIT STILL,SHE IS A GREAT TEACHER  WE ARE THANKFUL!!!

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  • faithr
  on Jan. 3, 2009 at 10:41 PM
• Hi. My name is Faith and I am new here at clubmom. My son has severe ADHD and has alot of other emotional issues. He is going to be 8 this month. I have been having trouble with him in school since he first started kndergarden. And it seems like it is only getting worse. He can not sit still at all. And when he is told to stop talking or to not move around he gets upset. Sometimes he cries in outburst, sometimes he gets really mad and starts to push things. But they have my son in something they started with him last year called IEP Program. It is where joshua my son, has a team of people to help him gain control of himself by taking him out of the room and working with him one on one. When he is calm and better he goes back in the room with the others. My son is very intelligent. He is in 2nd grade and is at 5th grade reading level, 4th grade math, etc.. His behavior is starting to affect his work. He does have some time with a teacher for him to do some work at his level. But i am just a wits end with all this. He has been taking resperdal for years now. I can not find a good counselor to help me with him. They have tried several meds. and he has had some bad reactions of side affects to them. I want to make sure that he is properly dignosed so we can help him. Every day is a struggle with him. At home he hit and miss. One minute he will be fine and then he will be going off in a fit about any little thing. He can't sit still while he is just talking to you. It is really hard cause my husband tells me that i have to do something. BUt i don't know what to do. I know that he can not help it but at the same time his actions really disturb the household.

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  • jacki2007
  on Jan. 26, 2009 at 11:14 AM

• Yes, my son is disrupting....but now he is into the PENCIL TAPPING  (he is 11 - in 6th grade).....which some teachers tolerate better than others  (and yes, his figiting at home 'drives me nuts' (in a good way....our son is the love or our life too).  We had to move him to private school - he is gifted AND ADHD....and he has the 'impulse control' issue which manifests itself with him in excessive TALKING.

  I understand the teachers issues teaching kids that don't 100% 'conform'....hey, it is hard at home too.:-)     One teacher gave him one of those stress Squeeze balls and one teacher lets him do oragimi during class (paper folding is quiet and keeps him focused) - which we are fortunate that the actual school work is very easy for him.....so if he divides his attention between the teacher and another task he still does ok.

  we 'lost' the public school battle......too much noise and activity going on all the time - kids like mine just cand focus that way

   

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  • heavenleeangel1
  on Feb. 26, 2009 at 6:37 PM

• My name is Samantha. MY son and I have ADD.  We are spacey, and don't pay attention everytime we really need to in life.  Its become a everyday norm for us.  I  have noticed in myself my parents would say my name 2-3 times I would hear them but space out.  Then now I notice my son does the same thing.  I can understand him better than anyone usually.  We also have some dyslexia.  His with words, and mine w/ numbers.  We are both very lazy ADD's.  We are like couch potato sometimes.  Takes work in all these disabilities, wow really does.  I feel for all these parents here that have struggles everday, and still do everything else.  I do what I can for the day really sometimes.  It feels so good to know were not alone.  Thanks

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  • AdelineGrace
  on Apr. 8, 2009 at 9:19 AM

• I totally agree.My son has ADHD. When he started a new school in October there was a substitute teacher because the class teacher was on maternity leave. She sent him home almost every day with a note telling me how hard he was to handle and why we didn't have him on meds.  I don't think she realized what this was this was doing to my child. He was so upset! He kept telling me "I'm trying mommy but I get bored! I didn't have insurance at the time and those meds are very expensive, plus I wasn't sure he needed meds in kindergarten since he seemed to be keeping up and was right where he needed to be academically. Well, when the class teacher came back I has a conversation with her and explained the situation and she suggested we play things by ear for a while.  I also suggested that she let him be her helper. He loves to help me at home. When he finishes I tell him what a big help he was and he just glows! About 2 weeks later I talked to her again and she said that he is a great little boy and that she thought that the sub just didn't know how to handle children with ADHD. She suggested we wait on the meds because at this point the situation isn't affecting his education. I think so much depends on the teacher. He loves this teacher and so do we and I wish she could teach him every year.
  

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  • jacki2007
  on Apr. 9, 2009 at 12:41 PM

• yes indeedy!   They make my son sit still - so he now TAP TAP TAP TAPs his pencil.  He is in a small private school.......so it's hard to 'hide' who the pencil tapper is with 10 kids.

   

  his prior teacher let him do oragimi during class.....that worked great.  He may look like he is not paying attention - but stop him at ANY time while paper folding - and he can recite all of the words the teacher just spoke.

   

  yes, let's make them all robots!  ha   That is what most schools seem to want.  but like I tell my son - 'better nerdy than boring'......einstein didn't fit in well or have many friends either  :-)

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  • cameon
  on Jul. 14, 2009 at 11:18 AM
• I've been thinking about this post. My son is 8 and he is constantly moving. If he's forced to sit still for too long he gets sleepy. A yoga ball in the back of the class sounds like a great idea. I wonder if for a teenager, it's okay to be different from your peers. It's a time of discovering ones individuality. In elementary age children, I wonder if it's better for them to feel the same?

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