Annoying kid!

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  • kseevers
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 8:53 AM

• I cried for your sister I know first hand how helpless she must feel. I wish I had some great profound advise but I don't, we struggle everyday. I can tell you it helps when someone calls for me to unload on, afterwards I don't feel like a shook up pop bottle ready to burst. Call her so much she knows it's you every time, let her gripe and complain to her hearts content, and help her with research, and if you ever get an opportunity to take the daughter for a day or evening please do, having a break helps so very much. Kathy

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  • DirtyMonkey
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:27 AM

• Ya, I know that is part of why she is so frustrated. She recently lost her job. Things are ok. She got an enormous severance pay. She worked a pretty lacks schedule so it wasn't like she never really saw the kids. Pretty much, hubby did the get ready for school thing and then they would get home maybe an hour before mom. But, now that it is summer and she's home ALL the time (beside occasional family outings like weekend camping or friends house for dinner) she is with her a lot more and not getting much of a break! I guess I didn't even think about that.

  But still, the whole camp thing is what bothers her and me. It's one thing when they are unruly with mom and dad, but with other people, especially when it's someplace that is supposed to be helping them, it's hard to deal and to know what to do. I feel so bad for her and I wish I could take the kids for a day. Unfortunately, like I said, I don't live close and if Dani can't be handled at a place with people who are trained to deal with challenged kids, who else can she really leave her with. I'm the closest family and I'm a good 600 miles from her. :( If I had the means, I would take them both for the weekend or something, But I wouldn't be able to get to her, much less take the kids for any period of time. =( I'm so sad we all live so far away. I have my first who is 11 months old and it saddens me that we are so far from family and this is one of the times it makes it even harder.

  Thank you for your kind words!! When I think about my sister, I will think about you too!! Thank you for your understanding! :)
  

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  • Charmed7up
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:00 PM

• My town has a local community guidance center that provides day camp, school, therapy etc. She might want to look into something like that, rather than a summer camp. My son was in partial hospitalization last fall, going there in the afternoon and staying until dinner time.

  As far as research for her and you, read A Bipolar Child by Janice Pappalos. It will open your eyes to her life with Dani.

  bpkids.org has a wonderful support system, but you have to pay for a membership. You could even buy her a membership as a gift. I've been on there in the past and it's wonderful how much advice and support the parents have within their forums, plus countless resources within their links.

  I hope that helps a little. I agree with the PP. Having someone to vent to, that won't judge you as a parent, is a God send. Call her and assure her she is strong enough. And if it's in the best interest of Dani and the family, a hospitalization (full or partial) can do wonders. It gives time for the family to regroup to handle the tasks ahead, and it helps the child become regulated on their meds and learn some coping strategies to make them successful at home.

  Charmed

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  • jinxmom
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:20 PM

• I agree with the pps and I truly feel for you and your sister.  Its challenging raising children with special needs but also can be rewarding.  What type of camp was it? Regular? My dd went to summer treatment camp for adhd, the counselors were well trained for the behaviors/symptoms that adhd children have.  Have your sister considered a camp for children with special needs?  Unfortunately being annoying comes with adhd children but its something they don't recognize until its pointed out to them. [sigh] Hope it goes well with your family.

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