HELP! What do you think?

[quinny89]

My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child around Thanksgiving. I have severe anxiety and depression and it scares him and he questions whether or not we will mentally be able to be parents. He also feels that a lot of the stuff that's been affecting me is starting to affect him, causing him to be unstable, which has never happened to him before. He doesn't feel that this is the best thing for us right now because of us both being unstable. He DOES want our relationship and DOES want our baby, but he's just so unsure. We feel like we should think about adoption and wait until we're both mentally stable because we're scared of it turning into a broken home. I need to know what your boyfriends/husbands think and if they have any advice from their point of view (or your point of view) from dealing with life with kids and a mom who has anxiety/depression and a dad who may have symptoms...

[heather29]

Well I've had anxiety my entire life and when I was pregnant with my first it was horrible.  But somehow I survived and the father was not in the pictures.  So I had to do it on my own.  Once I had my daughter my anxiety got so much better.  It's almost like it was natural for my body to adjust to taking care of someone else instead of focusing internally on myself.  She was the best thing that happened to me. I'm now pregnant with my third child and due in October.  I'm now married but having children can be very scarey at first.  Everyone seems to worry if they will be good parents or stable enough to do it.  You will believe me.  Don't stress just try to enjoy the normal up and downs of the pregnancy rollercoaster.  Believe me when you hold that little bundle of joy you may be overwhelmed but it will truly make you realize how your anxiety has made you a stronger person.  Good luck and if you ever need to talk hit me up with an email.  Good luck

 

[stillstandin246]

 We all worry if we are going to be good parents.  Even with anxiety and depression, you can be an amazing mommy and when you see that little bundle of love, your heart will melt.  Do you have a therapist you can talk to about this? I think you will be fine and I just wanted to offer my support.

[shygrl3cccm]

Yeah that's a hard one. Talk to a therapist, and both of you talk to a therapist as well. I have had depression/anxiety my whole life too. I think its making me work harder and faster to get over my disorder because family life is so much more rewarding. Good luck to you.