I have been having anxiety for over 4 yrs and been with my husband for 3 and he doesn't understand my anxiety/panic attacks. He tells me to figure out what causes them, or to simply just fix it. It isn't that hes a jerk but he just doesn't understand. He also doen't get how feeling anxious can affect my moods and that if I could control it I would be more pleasant
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on Feb. 9, 2007 at 2:02 PM
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on Feb. 11, 2007 at 10:02 AM
I completly understand where you are coming from my husband dosn't get it eaither he thinks i should be able to just fix it or to stop it before it starts. i think maybe its cause they haven't been there im not sure tho.
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justine
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on Feb. 14, 2007 at 3:53 PM
I know exactly how you feel. My husband is a really laid back easy going guy and has no idea what its like to experience intense anxiety. He has gained in compassion though and understanding too. I started including him in some of my therapy and showing him educational material about it on the internet. I think the most important thing is to explain to them that its just a type of disease, usually caused my chemical imbalances in the brain. And although it seems as though its an emotional problem, it usually is a result of a physical problem. Men understand physical problems better than emotional ones, and this helped my husband to uderstand and accept it a lot better.
My husband also does not understand I totally understand what you are saying. I have been suffering with anxiety and Panic attacks for about 15 years. It also brought along some OCD and hypochondriac. My husband gets mad when I tell him that I am anxious, He tells me just be normal you know it is in your head get over it. I don't really get any support from hi. Lately it has been crazy with the anxiety that I have
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on Feb. 15, 2007 at 7:18 PM
My hubby doesnt understand either. After I had my son in June 06 my Dr told me I had anxiety problems. Just the other night I had a panic attack and freaked out and had to go to the emergency room since i didnt know what was going on with my body. ANyways my husband just tells me to stop stressing over everything, but thats easier said than done. He has no sympathy for me and says its my fault I have anxiety and sould stop it anytime if I wanted to. Its so hard to deal with him thinking its all in my head. Glad to know there are other moms going thru what I am. 
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on Feb. 15, 2007 at 10:24 PM
Quoting angiebangie84:I am so glad you found the group!!! My husband says silly things like that too sometimes!!! Have you seen a doctor?? Mine was amazing and reassured me 100%. I think our husbands may seemunsupportive because they don't understand. I brought mine to my appt. maybe you should too LOL
My hubby doesnt understand either. After I had my son in June 06 my Dr told me I had anxiety problems. Just the other night I had a panic attack and freaked out and had to go to the emergency room since i didnt know what was going on with my body. ANyways my husband just tells me to stop stressing over everything, but thats easier said than done. He has no sympathy for me and says its my fault I have anxiety and sould stop it anytime if I wanted to. Its so hard to deal with him thinking its all in my head. Glad to know there are other moms going thru what I am.
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on Feb. 16, 2007 at 1:40 PM
It sounds like you all are describing my husband in your posts! I'm glad I'm not the only one whose spouse just doesn't get it. He never freaks about anything and he actually gets angry sometimes when I do! He'll actually yell STOP CRYING at me when I get upset and say there's no reason to cry so I'm not going to talk to you until you stop. Being pregnant has made it SOO much worse since my hormones have me freaking out about things that I thought I had overcome. Sometimes I just want a hug and to be told that everything is going to be OK, how can that be too much to ask?
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on Feb. 16, 2007 at 2:46 PM
Quoting clairehugs:
It sounds like you all are describing my husband in your posts! I'm glad I'm not the only one whose spouse just doesn't get it. He never freaks about anything and he actually gets angry sometimes when I do! He'll actually yell STOP CRYING at me when I get upset and say there's no reason to cry so I'm not going to talk to you until you stop. Being pregnant has made it SOO much worse since my hormones have me freaking out about things that I thought I had overcome. Sometimes I just want a hug and to be told that everything is going to be OK, how can that be too much to ask?
I was the same way when I was pregant with my son, I had it pretty much under control until I got pregnant and than it was terrible. it was even worse after I had my son(I almost died) and I had a tough time comming to terms with that, and now most things get to me, I try to count to ten before I react though. My husband doesn't really get"it" but I do try to give him some insight when he is willing to listen.. I aslo brought him along to my doctors apptment so that he could just see what it is like, I don't want his pity, just his understanding. and I do understand, we all do and if it helps here is a cyber hug xxx
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on Feb. 17, 2007 at 1:25 PM
I think my husband does understand in some way since he has depressions but does not want to go see a doc because he does not want to take meds. I don't know if anxiety and depression is tha same or if one triggers the other or if those two things are compleatly diffrent! I'm new to all this! But iam always so busy keeping my husband up that i let myself down and that has to stop!!!!! So now i will start with my meds and i hope if he sees that they help he will go see a doc!!
~Mel~
~Mel~
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on Feb. 17, 2007 at 8:15 PM
wow my husband sound like all yours. when i first started getting the anxiety attacks dh would tell me just to go lay down and take a nap. a yea right im freaking out and he wants me to sleep.
now he tries to calm me rather than saying that but really he has no idea what it feels like. Sometimes i wish he would have just one so he could relate.
now he tries to calm me rather than saying that but really he has no idea what it feels like. Sometimes i wish he would have just one so he could relate.
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on Feb. 9, 2007 at 2:02 PM