Hello everyone, this is my first post to Christian Stepmoms and I am happy to be here. Something in my soul has caused me to seek out fellow women in my situation, so please introduce yourselves to me. :) I married my best friend a month ago, but have been involved with him and his daughter for over two years. I'm blessed to have such an amazing SD that is four years old now and to have been part of her life since two. Her father is very loving, dedicated, and involved in his daughter's life. It's a long complicated story (as always), but God helped us find our way back to each other for a reason.
Tonight I have decided to reach out to fellow stepmoms because I am having a hard time with the BM because she is very selfish. I cannot seem to find a way to love her, forgive her, and be happy in my life recently. She is constantly doing things to upset us and I do not always agree with her parenting style. I do not carry grudges, therefor this animosity I have towards her weighs heavy on my heart. It's been hard for my husband to find a full time job, so together we are basically living paycheck to paycheck. BM keeps asking for more money even though she is getting an outrageous amount from us, and today when we dropped my SD off, she had a brand new Jeep Patriot in the driveway. Also, her boyfriend just bought a new house, she's gone on three vacations since January, and parties every weekend that she doesn't have her daughter. I guess I am looking for a way to forgive her, turn the other cheek, and let go so I can be happy in my life. It's just so hard when we are just getting by and she's off having the time of her life. I keep praying for God to help my husband find a job and thank him for being able to pay our bills, but this new car has sent me over the edge today and I can't stop crying. Does anyone have a good piece of scripture or words of advice/love? Thank you.