Stepmom of 4 getting ready to add my first biological child to the mix--any advice?
My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and are now getting ready to welcome a 5th child to our home--my first biologically! I love all 4 of my stepchildren, but I am nervous about how to add another child into the home. They all call me by my first name (I made it clear in the beginning they didn't HAVE to call me Mom, because there's always been tension from the Ex about that). But how will I teach my own child to call me that, when he/she hears all of them call me something differently? Will I feel the need to parent differently with this one? I pray against any feelings of favoritism, but will that come naturally? How do I guard against that? The youngest of my stepchildren is 10, so there will be that much distance in age. I'm not worried about how the kids will welcome this one, because they're all pretty excited about it. These are just some questions I have running through my heart and mind. I know God put us together for a reason, and is still working on our family's story, so I'm sure it will all eventually come together. Any input from others who had/are having a similar situation is appreciated!