I feel as if my school is trying to get me to pull my son out instead of kicking him out
I'm new to this website but have been reading posts for a couple days now, and see some parents in similar situations.
I am currently a teacher of grades 3-6 Language Arts and Social Studies at a VERY small, non-public, religious school. As a teacher, my son gets to attend at a discount, which is helpful. Last year he was in the preschool program after having half a year of preschool in a full day daycare at which I was also employed. At the beginning of this year, he was 4 yrs and 8 mths, which as a non-public school is past the minimum of 4 y and 7 m to start Kindergarten. For the first 2 months of this school year, I was told that his behavior was a problem. He started with one teacher that he had had in preschool, then they changed it to two teachers (including the one he started with), then they moved the first one back to preschool and kept only the second one. This was enough of a challenge, but then I was told that, although he was academically at the top of the class in kindergarten, his social behavior was not ready, and he was moved back to preschool because he was not 5 yet.
My son turned 5 in December, and since he's been in preschool again (now we have been learning the pre-k material for 2 and a half years), he has been declining in behaviors. I have received complaints almost every day, and because I am just down the hall, frequently get pulled out of class by both teachers and principal to deal with it. My husband and I formally requested all written reports on him, as he has been asked to leave school twice this year, and has already had at least 1 in school suspension that I am aware of. And he's only 5!
I was told that when the class was observed in the fall, there were no written reports on his behavior, although I was verbally told just last week what they supposedly said about him specifically. I have ONLY received the report from today, written by the principal, which mentions previous behaviors. I have seen nothing written about the days he was suspended.
Last week when talking to the principal, who is also my direct boss, she made it clear that she cannot/will not determine if he should leave or not, but then also made comments about children like him who need a special school to deal with these behaviors.
I should also mention that I just had him tested for adhd, and the dr. said it's purely behavioral. We have set up a first counseling session to inquire about it, but that is not for almost another month.
I'm sorry to vent so much...but what do I do? This is not just my son's school, it is also my job, which contributes about 1/3 to our income. I love my students, I enjoy the other staff for the most part, and I like my son gettign the religious environment...but is it better for him to TRY to end out the year another 1.5 months, or jsut end it now? Either way, I am HEAVILY leaning toward probably cyber schooling in the fall because then I can combine religious homeschooling with a good, free, online curriculum.
Any advice? (Sorry for venting )