My 10 yo son is clearly not happy with school and his peers. He feels left out and picked on. He tells me kids call him names and comment on his short height. Yesterday, he told me he feels alone and just doesn't belong. He googles how to be popular or "ripped", he has a tendency to retaliate when someone is picking on him. (not physical) I have spoken with the principal, suggested he find different friends, offered to homeschool. I just want him to be happy and I know how important it is to feel like you belong. I never thought boys would have these issues.
All kids are mean. Weather there boys or girls. My friends son gets picked on also. He is only 9. My daughter is 10 she has had glasses scents first grade and today we just found out she will need bracesfor her teeth. Growing up is hard to do. I things get better maybe you can talk about private school. They do have financial aid. Well I know R.I. does.
Sorry you and your son are going through this.
We have gone through periods like this with my kids and it just destroys you to see your child so sad and feel so powerless to help.
I would look into clubs, groups ect.. inside and out of school to help him feel like part of something. Often the good feeling of knowing you belong somewhere will transfer over to make him more confident and happy and therefore more accepted at school.
If all else fails - look into a different school or even homeschooling if you have a social network for that there.
Best of luck to you,
Robbie
Some schools with do a mentoring thing. I would talk to the school social worker (if there is one) and ask for help. They may be able to pair your son with an older child who would watch out for him. Sometimes, if an adult in authority gives another child the responsibility of mentoring, it can work beautifully. My son's therapist is a school social worker in a different school system than ours and she was telling me about doing this. She chose an older boy who was popular and presented this special, important responsibility of mentoring a younger, shy boy. The older boy took it to heart and everything worked out great. Good luck.
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on Nov. 5, 2009 at 3:17 PM