What should we get....(PIOG)

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  • girlsclubmom
  on Nov. 6, 2009 at 7:56 AM

• My middle girl just turned 9.

  It depends on the child but here are some of her presents....

  A digital camera (grandma) - her favorite!

  DS games

  American girl (other grandma)

  Polly pockets

  books on club penguin

  craft kits

  cd (taylor swift)

  jewelry is always nice for any girl

  Happy Bday!!!!

   

  Robbie

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  • samanthabecker
  on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:28 AM

•  My daughter at that age was into bratz dolls and barbies, littlest pet shops, ds or wii stuff, craft stuff, clothes, shoes, purses, lip glosses.  Since his daughter's mother will unwrap and re-wrap the presents that you buy for her and put her name on them, you could always  open the presents, just a little bit, that you buy for her and put in a little note that says from you and dad, the mom wouldn't have any idea that there is an actual gift tag in the present.   Then on Christmas when your bf calls his daughter to see if she liked the presents she will know that daddy actually bought her stuff. And mom will look like an idiot.

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  • PinkLight
  on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:39 AM

• I love the idea of hiding a note inside. You could also buy her something you could engrave. If you did a doll, you could put several notes in the doll's clothes. If you watch Desperate Housewives, think about what Linette would do, Ha! My husband's X was a real witch too so feel for both of you.

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  • boychaser3
  on Nov. 7, 2009 at 3:54 PM

• Could you take her on a shopping spree so she knew the gifts came from dad.  That is more important than being suprised on christmas morning.

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  • aries1984
  on Nov. 7, 2009 at 4:40 PM

• there would be no way we can take her anywhere without her mom being in the picture. and one other thing is the matter with that idea....unfortunally we dont have that kind of money to get all the way to Oklahoma from Wisconsin and back.
  

  Quoting boychaser3:
  
  

  Could you take her on a shopping spree so she knew the gifts came from dad.  That is more important than being suprised on christmas morning.

  
  

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  • starrsun
  on Nov. 9, 2009 at 2:01 PM

• Does your bf get to talk to his dd at all?

  Please forgive me...I have been on the 'other side' of this situation. 'Father' had been out of picture;moved on,etc. for years..minimal contact. He started sending gifts he KNEW I couldn't afford out of spite,pure and simple. I would then do what you are saying the bio mom is doing...yes,it is/was wrong of me to do that;at same time..it was also wrong for him to try to delibrately make me look bad,ya know?

  I would say...if he can talk to his daughter,find out what she is into...ask her 1 thing that mom would NOT know they had talked about...and when she opens it...wala! she'll know dad DID send her something. Other than that I have no ideas.

  I didn't tell you the above to 'piss you off';just wanted you as the 'other woman' to know how it is sometimes w/bio mom's being made to feel...not worthy,ok? He may  NOT  be like my dd's sperm donor,so.... 

  

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  • aries1984
  on Nov. 9, 2009 at 2:20 PM

• my bf hardly gets to talk to his dd. i dont know if i mentioned this but we mive in Wisconsin and his ex lives in Oklahoma.

  before me and my bf got together i dont know how he was with his daughter. but in the last 3 years i have noticed him wanting to be more involved in her life. last august (08) we had planned a trip to OK to see his daughter but when we got down there his ex conviently forgot to tell us her phone was shut off. we didnt have much money to begin with. me, my bf our 5 month old son and my dad had to sleep in the car for 3 nights because we didnt have the money for a room or anything. we never got to see his daughter that trip at all.... his ex had moved faurther and faurther from him so he cant spend time wtih their daughter. it is hard to describe what kind of person his ex is with out being rude. last christmas. we didnt find out what their daughter wanted until about 2 weeks before christmas so we had to guess what she wanted and when his ex finally told us  we had gotten the stuff for her. my bf wrote on the box with a black Sharpie marker so his daughter knew it was fro him. when the package got down there, his ex proceds to open everything we sent down. and im not sure she wrapped them up like she said she did. his ex cant be trusted. i just wish there was a  way we could send something to his daughter and have it be known wihtout a doubt that it was from her dad instaed of her mom stealing it.
  

  Quoting starrsun:
  
  

  Does your bf get to talk to his dd at all?

  Please forgive me...I have been on the 'other side' of this situation. 'Father' had been out of picture;moved on,etc. for years..minimal contact. He started sending gifts he KNEW I couldn't afford out of spite,pure and simple. I would then do what you are saying the bio mom is doing...yes,it is/was wrong of me to do that;at same time..it was also wrong for him to try to delibrately make me look bad,ya know?

  I would say...if he can talk to his daughter,find out what she is into...ask her 1 thing that mom would NOT know they had talked about...and when she opens it...wala! she'll know dad DID send her something. Other than that I have no ideas.

  I didn't tell you the above to 'piss you off';just wanted you as the 'other woman' to know how it is sometimes w/bio mom's being made to feel...not worthy,ok? He may  NOT  be like my dd's sperm donor,so.... 

  
  

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  • PinkLight
  on Nov. 10, 2009 at 9:19 AM

• I too have been on the other side of this although it's been many years. When my husband and I got married he had a 12 yr old ds from his first marriage who live on the east coast (we're in midwest). She wouldn't let him come to our wedding because he would not be the center of attention. So we took our "honeymoon" in Alexandria, Va and spent a long weekend with him. We had a great time and then things began to unravel. I think he went home and probably talked about how "cool" his dad's new wife was and the fact that she had a pillow fight with him and played with him." Anyway, jealousy set in and then she spent the next few years sabataging our relationship. She couldn't prevent visitation because it was court ordered, but she said to my husband "just because you got it up once doesn't mean you're a father." This was said in front ds. I started sending ds small gifts about once a month and things were going okay for a while. Then he came to visit and had a conversation with my mother and basically said that I wouldn't allow his parents to talk. My mother started to advise me on how to be in all of this. I flipped out at the time since I was the glue that was holding their relationship together. If my husband needed to speak to his ex about something, I would have to nag him for days to get him to do it. He found her so unpleasant, he avoided her like the plague. After that, I bowed out entirerly. I figured that I would not be the only one making the effort and getting blamed for things (being the victim in all of this). As you can imagine, it all dissolved. His ds is 35 and they still don't have a relationship. I think my husband regrets this which is sad. We always thought his ds would figure things out when he was older, but he never did. Brainwashing is a powerful thing.

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  • Sarlinda
  on Nov. 10, 2009 at 11:47 AM

• My daughter is almost 9 and she loves taking pictures, listening to her mp3 player, moxie dolls, bratz dolls, mary-kate and ashley olsen anything.

  Just some suggestions.

  
  

  Hope it helps.

  
  

  Sarlinda
  

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