12 year old son won't go to the bathroom (kinda gross)
So my 12.5 year old DS won't go to the bathroom. He just won't. There are some days I think he only goes once! Last year, when he had his appendix out, the doctor told us that DS had some pretty packed bowels and needed to use the bathroom more. And I'm pretty sure he does need to go, because when he passes gas it is just disgustingly foul.
He's acting like a toddler with control issues. The more he's reminded and nagged, the more he holds it in. My ex just told me that he spent last night humiliating DS about it...on purpose in order to make him go. The result? DS wet his bed for the first time in months. Obviously the wrong tactic. The ex has some bathroom issues himself, but the opposite way. He can spend hours in the bathroom.
I feed him a healthy diet; he doesn't eat much however. We've tried mineral oil, senna and Miralax, but nothing seems to help.
Do I take him to a psychologist or a pediatrician? Do I ignore the problem (because I can't force him to go)? Has anyone dealt with something like this?
Erika in NJ