My son is 10, he is very bright and quick witted. He is actually very very funny in an intellectual way and makes the adults crack up. However, his quick wit is what is getting him into trouble with me. He has not learned to filter yet. So, he will pop one off at inappropriate times, or will make a joke that would be fine for an adult but would be disrespectful from a child (even though it is funny). So on Tuesday he popped off again, and I took Wednesday away - completely. It is spring break and he had all activities taken away....accept for reading. Wouldn't you know it right after I punished him, his friends mom called to see if we could watch her son for Wednesday afternoon.
So here is what I did - I gave my son the choice of the original punishment with out his buddy coming over, or to have his buddy come over but he had to be my slave for the morning. I had a list of 4 icky chores (like cleaning bird poop off the house) that he had to do. He of course picked the slave bit.
So did I compromise my authority by changing mid-way through, or did I do ok by keeping consequences??