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Posted by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 3:38 PM
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Apparently, witches aren't ugly anymore; they're sexy. So are pirates and pumpkins and princesses--traditional little girl Halloween costumes that used to say, Isn't she cute? now scream, That's hot! with an increasing array of halter tops, bare midriffs and miniskirts. Costume catalogs and Web sites, filled with images of pouty preteens modeling the latest in Halloween fashion, seem almost to verge on child pornography, and ooze with attitude. Witches are "wayward" and grammar-school pirates are "wenches." A girl isn't an Army cadet, she's a "Major Flirt," and who knew female firefighters wore fishnet stockings? Even Little Bo Peep comes with a corset, short skirt and lacy petticoat.

And while complaints about "slutty" kids' costumes may seem like a yearly parents' lament, the industry has been ramping up the sex appeal to ever younger groups of girls. It's not just 10- and 12-year-olds who have gone Halloween trampy. Now 6- and 7-year-old models are featured in catalogs wearing child-sized versions of skimpy costumes that used to be reserved for adult boudoirs. If you think we're exaggerating, note that they're actually selling something called a "Child's Chamber Maid Costume." And, many of the tween girls in the photographs are wearing more make-up than Christina Aguilera on awards night. More disturbing may be their expressions--they look as if they've been told to give the camera their best "sexy" gaze.

Tack on all the licensed outfits from popular TV shows and toy lines like Cheetah Girls, Bratz and Hannah Montana, and parents are having to search farther a field for something that won't make their little trick-or-treater look like a lady of the night. But with adolescent girls parading around in short-shorts that say JUICY across the bottom, and every younger girls aspiring to be a diva of some sort, is it any wonder that their Halloween costumes have gotten racier? "No, but it is distressing," says Joe Kelly, founder of the advocacy group Dads and Daughters. He sees the trend as symptomatic of a deeper issue. "The hypersexualization of younger and younger girls only serves to reinforce gender roles. When an 8-year-old girl can't find a doctor costume because all they have are nurse outfits, that's a problem." Celia Rivenbark, author of the 2006 parental manifesto "Stop Dressing your Six-Year-Old Like a Skank," has noticed it too, and says that Halloween has become "just another excuse for little girls to dress like sluts."

This year Americans will spend close to $2 billion on Halloween costumes, nearly double what they spent in 2003, according to the National Retail Federation. With so much money up for grabs, more and more retailers have elbowed their way into the costume market, increasing the pressure to offer a unique take on old favorites. "The idea of vamping up the appeal of the costume is something we've seen a lot of," says NRF spokesperson Kathy Grannis. So while the variety of costumes has certainly increased, they all look more and more alike. Whether it's a "Midnight Fairy Rock Girl," a "Scar-let Pirate" or "Miss-Behaved," chances are if you buy your daughter the costume she really wants, the one all the other little girls are wearing, she'll show up at the neighbor's doorstep in a choker collar, high-heels and baring enough skin to give you a real fright.

These new "edgier" costumes are simply reflections of pop culture, says Jackie MacDonald, a costume buyer for catalog giant Lillian Vernon. "Girls today seem to like a little pizzazz. The same old princesses aren't where it's at anymore," she says, before carefully noting, "We don't want to say they're sexier, just more confident."

Not that there's anything patently wrong with young girls wanting to look pretty. Child psychologists agree that embracing and understanding their attractiveness is a key part of early-adolescent development for girls. But when sexiness and body image become the sole criteria by which they judge themselves and each other, "That's when we start to see problems," says Dr. Eileen Zurbriggen, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz, who last year chaired the American Psychological Association's (APA) Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls. Their report, issued in February, declared that, "Throughout U.S. culture, and particularly in mainstream media, women and girls are depicted in a sexualized manner."

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by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 3:38 PM
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by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 3:58 PM
I love the idea for the pajama party girl. I wish I was that creative. While I agree with u on the costumes (and clothes in general) getting to be a bit much, I was able to find a nice witch costume for my 9 yr old at Crate and Barrell. It is a long, fancy looking dress that looks stunning on her. In a good way. My 8 yr old is going as a Bratz Pirate. The shirt and skirt are connected (no tummy showing, yay) and the skirt is quite long actually. The sleeves are that fishnet material, but it is a pirate outfit. Plus it's cold out here so she'll have a white under armour shirt on underneath. But it was harder to find appropriate costumes this yr as they have both decided that they are too old to be princesses anymore. (We have done I think every single Disney princess ever, lol).
by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 4:01 PM

well heres how i see it. the stores are only going to sell the things that people want to buy. unfortunatly there are way to many parents out there that see nothig wrong ot even love it when their 10yo dresses like a slutty pirate. we can not blame the vendors, we have to blame the consumers.

there are planty of halloween costumes out there that are more than appropriate, i had no problem finding them.

my 7yo will be hannah montana this year, although i did not like the stoare bought one, it was trashy. i bought her the wig and she will be wearing her own funky style clothing.

by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 6:59 PM
i think i love the fact that i start asking about halloween costumes the first week in september so i have plenty of time to make them myself and don't have to resort to buying the cheap nasty costumes, nor spend a fortune on something quality.  this year's line-up:

5yo dd2:  daisy-head maizie
6yo ds2:  giant fly
6yo ds1:  bag of garbage
11yo dd1:  cave girl

i spent less than $15 on things that were not actual items of clothing that can be worn after halloween (like turtlenecks, gloves and tights.)  the past few years in costume can be found in another blog: halloween.

~I solemnly swear I am up to no good.~
by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 10:10 PM
Thank you for posting this! This puts into words very well how I have been feeling whenever I shop for her. It doesnt just stop at costumes though, a lot of the everyday clothes are like that, too. I actually saw a set of string thongs for sale size 10/12 the other day, with the words CUTE FLIRT HOT and DIVA on them. My 10 year old isn't hot except in July and isnt allowed to flirt until shes much older. Ugh. Thanks for not getting sucked into that sexy mess!

 *Smiles, Laura*

by on Oct. 29, 2007 at 10:12 PM
Oh, and we did the same thing as Christina this year, she wanted to be Hannah Montana but the store bought outfit was a black miniskirt set, which wouldn't be a good idea in this 40 degree weather, anyway. Glitter jeans and big boots it is!

 *Smiles, Laura*

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