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10 Ways to Teach Your Child How to Manage Stress

Posted by on Nov. 26, 2011 at 1:45 AM
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1. Identify symptoms of anxiety
Take inventory of your inner voice when it repeatedly announces, "I'm worried about ____." Whether it's that upcoming math test, party or soccer game, make note of the silent alarm bell in your head. Catch yourself, and pay attention to nervous habits: hair twirling, nail biting, eye twitching, foot tapping.

 2. Ask for help
You don't have to handle everything solo. Look for a helping hand. Or you can delegate a portion of a task that is overwhelming. Even the act of venting to someone about all the stress you feel will help you find emotional support and nurturing.

3. Create an action plan to handle an upcoming worrisome challenge
Divide the task up into parts you can manage. A one-step-at-a-time approach divides and conquers anxiety.

 4. Identify activities that relax you
Listening to music, talking a walk, calling a friend -- those are healthy diversion techniques. Take note of the things that bring you pleasure, and exercise them when you need a lift or distraction.

5. Analyze how you explain failure
Do you blame yourself? Laying blame and taking responsibility are two different things. Pessimists blame themselves; optimists don't. Don't say, "I failed the test because I am stupid or incompetent." Do say, "I failed because the test covered material I didn't focus on when studying." In the latter situation, you are in control of changing the situation for the better. Realize that you can plan more effectively for similar challenges in the future. Beating up on yourself is self-defeating; it leaves you feeling powerless when, in fact, you are not.

 6. Get enough sleep and eat properly during tough times
When your schedule is packed with events, chores, challenges and responsibilities, make sure you take care of your basic needs first. If you become overtired or undernourished your body is less capable of performing well under pressure.

7. Purge yourself of intense emotions
Keeping a journal is a helpful way to express your anger, sadness or disappointment. When you write it down, you are, in effect, transferring the emotion out of your body and onto paper. This process helps you understand what's behind the emotions, too.

 8. Draw boundaries for yourself, within reason
Can I land the lead in the play? Can I drop 20 pounds by prom night? Is that possible or impossible? Reach high with your expectations, but just short of setting unattainable goals.

9. Set priorities
There are times when the whole world seems like a to-do list. Take out the garbage. Finish that homework. Study for the test. Read the book for a report. Practice that musical instrument. Run so you are conditioned for the game. Do some volunteer work. Shop for shoes for the dance.

Learn to decide what is most important, and focus on that first. Arrange your to-do list in order of importance. Sometimes it's best to put off till tomorrow so you can manage today.

10. Get physical
Exercise revs up your body and makes you feel more hopeful and energized. No matter how much is on your plate, find time to get outside and walk, run, bike ride, skate, swim, play tennis or partake in whatever physical activity delights you.



How do you help your child manage stress?


by on Nov. 26, 2011 at 1:45 AM
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owensmom34
by on Nov. 26, 2011 at 2:02 AM

I try to get them to open up to us.  We talk to them daily.  We tell them not to stress the small stuff.

kmrtigger
by on Nov. 26, 2011 at 1:59 PM

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fineyouguyswin
by on Nov. 27, 2011 at 2:29 PM
We try to talk a lot
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Barabell
by on Nov. 27, 2011 at 3:01 PM

We talk to my son about it. Sometimes just helping him identify that he's stressed and then figuring out what's causing it can resolve half the battle.

He also uses stressors to help push himself harder when playing hockey, and so he uses physical exercise too.

DJAKoala
by on Nov. 27, 2011 at 5:59 PM

Thank you for this informative post.

I encourage my son to talk, journal, draw. He takes long baths, listens to music.

I can tell when his stress levels are up, he suffers terrible IBS symptoms.

KTMOM
by on Nov. 28, 2011 at 4:13 PM

Good advice. I do a lot of these things. I have also taught my son some relaxation techniques/visualizations that help him if he is having a hard time getting to sleep.

Micky120
by on Nov. 28, 2011 at 5:52 PM


Quoting KTMOM:

Good advice. I do a lot of these things. I have also taught my son some relaxation techniques/visualizations that help him if he is having a hard time getting to sleep.


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