The dreaded makeup issue

[bellasmom32510]

My tween DD (DSD actually) is 11. Up until this point she has only been allowed to "play" with makeup (eye shadow only) at home. That has always been fine with her, that is all she wanted to do.  Her cousin (5 months older) is allowed to wear full make up. DH and I are NOT okay with her wearing ANY kind of make up right now - other than play- and it has to be in the house, if we leave to go out it comes off. We feel she is just too young.

Today she had to dress up for a class project and had to wear makeup as part of her costume. I put the make up on her myself and was okay with her wearing it for the purpose of the school project. I have to say she looked pretty in it, but she also looked MUCH older. So tonight before bed she comes to me and asks if she can wear the foundation to school tomorrow. I told her absolutely not (first, we have a no makeup rule and second, it is MY makeup and it is expensive). She was allowed to wear it to school because of the project, but that she will not be able to wear it on a regular basis. She asked when she would be able allowed to and I told her high school. Then she tries to go to bed without washing her face. I told her she needed to get the makeup off her face. She put it off and put it off. She then asks why she can't go to bed with the makeup on. I tell her because she needs to wash her face (she has acne - not horrible but noticeable on her forehead. Her biggest issue there is that she isn't consistent with using the cleansing cloths I have bought her) and she isn't going to go to school tomorrow with make up on! I KNOW her plan, I am not stupid! She was going to wear it to bed, then try to leave the house with it STILL ON!

I REALLY wish she didn't have this project because honestly, I wouldn't have had to have this conversation right now...maybe later, just not now! Especially when I am trying to get kids to bed and everyone is taking their sweet time.

Anyone else not okay with their tween wearing makeup yet?

[ashlis3645]

My daughtr is 10 and in the 4th grade.  Several girls she goes to school with are wearing makeup.  I totally disagree with it!  I told my daughter she could strart with lipgloss and maybe powder when she was an 8th grader but not before!  Mine plays in it at home too.

[kmrtigger]

Being a mom of boys this is not a topic I have to worry about. But when I was growing up the rule was when I was 13 and could buy my own makeup. But I also had to make sure I washed my face before bed each night. If I didn't I had my makeup removed for a week.

[psych_mom]

I agree, I don't want my daughter wearing make up while just a tween either. The foundation probably would have rubbed off on her pillow while she was sleeping and probably would have irritated her acne even more.

[minimo77]

DD is only 9 right now, im ok with lip gloss, thats it. But i have already told her, when she is old enough to wear it, i am taking her in to a professional so they can show her the proper way of doing things. That way, she dosnt have to go through the" lets play make up and make myself look like a clown stage" LOL She has drasticly different coloring that i do, so not sure if my own make up would even be of use to her. I will also stress the importance of skin care, washing etc. Im not sure at what age, but im thinking 13 sounds good.

[bellasmommy1988]

i was allowed to wear makeup in 8th grade but i also didnt really care about makeup that much i just wore light powder

[fineyouguyswin]

My DD is only 4 lol but she will not be allowed to wear makeup at all in our house.

[guccimomma]

My dd will be 11 in July and we don't allow her to wear any makeup outside of the house except for lip gloss, unless it's for something special like a dance recital or a pageant/program and this will be the rule until she is probably 13-14 or so.  I'm iffy as to when I will allow full makeup.  I started wearing full makeup when I was 13/14 in the 8th grade.

[tomsjennabean]

wow i must say im very HAPPY to hear this from all of you. I thought for a moment my DH and I were the only parents in our neighborhood who doesnt allow SD 11 to wear makeup. They like to play dress up at home SD and DD 5 so we are fine with that but if we leave to go out or they want to play outside they have to wash it off. SD does try to wear make up to school so we took it all away they have to ask for it if they want to play dress up then give it back. She has come home from school with makeup on using her friends got in alot of trouble with DH for that. We did come to a compromise which is SD is aloud to wear nail polish and lip gloss but thats it. No other makeup or fake nails. Its still not good enough for her lol.

Same thing goes for the "slut" shorts why the hell do they make them that short for young kids? Its crazy

[mamarj]

I'm guessing when she wore the makeup at school that she probably got a lot of compliments from her friends and that is why she didn't want to take it off. My DD is not at all interested in wearing makeup but she did tell me that some of her friends said their moms are going to let them wear makeup when they get into 6th grade. I don't know if this is true and how much they are allowing. I think I started wearing it either in 7th or the summer before 8th and that is because I had a cousin a year older than me that had started wearing makeup. I don't ever recall my mom telling me I couldn't so that must have been the appropriate age I guess.

[melanielmcgee]

I grew up in a house with 5 sisters. My mom made a big deal about Turning 12 and getting make up for our b-days. My dd turned 12 in oct. she's alowed to wear only natural colors of eyeshadow and gloss or balm. She also wears powder and blush. No mascara, no liner, no liquid foundation. If. I could find clear mascara I'd let her wear it. Because like everything else you almost can't see it.