Our house rule is that if DS holds a "C" grade in any class at any point of the 9 weeks that his priviledges are revoked until he gets his grade back up to at least a "B". Our son has the capablility to get all A's and B's as long as he stays focused and tries. But, every quarter towards the middle he starts drifting and losing focus (which I do think is typical)..He is 11 and in 6ths grade btw. We have the ability to check every grade for every class and every assignment grade on the website everyday which I do. So, DS recently got a couple of bad grades on tests that he did not apply himself to when it came to studying..forgot his books..etc. Now he has 2 "C"s and I tool all electronics and friend priviledges away until he gets them back up..He knows the drill and this has happened both previous quarters as well but this time he seems to be rebelling much harder than before he threw a huge fit and packed his bags and said he was moving to his papas:) :( ..and I do know that it is probably bc he has a gf now and texts her all the time everyday which caused us to have to put time restrictions in place...and now I have taken his ipod away so he can't text. Do you think that this is a reasonable grounding? I am desperate for ways to make him apply himself and be motivated..I know a lot of it is normal for his age too.
I haven't had to deal with this with my boys, but my parents would always make me bring home my book every single day and study for at least 30 minutes for every subject that I had a C or lower in. So if I had 2 C's, I'd be bringing home 2 books and studying for at least an hour total for those 2 subjects. My parents never took away privileges, but I did have less time for privileges as homework always comes first.
If you know he's capable then I see no problem with how you handle it.
If a C was all he was capable of and studied, did his home work etc. Then IMO it would be harsh. Clearly that is not your case.
I think you are being very reasonable. I grew up with the same kind of rules about Cs. I have already started DD on that path. I know what she is capable of, so I expect her to do her best.
we have never had to take anything away from jordan . he had 1 B this yr. jordan's report card was excellent this yr all A's keep doing what ur doing. my grades were alway d's and f's. we have a homework station were jordan can do his homework there is no tv or playstationvdownstair. while he down stairs i keep joe and the twins upstairs. jordan's girlfriend doesn't even have our number so there is no calling or texting. tell im why his grounding. if ya have take to take away his whole bedroom. set him at the table. and have him do his homwork. my hubby sit down with jordan and barks at him if he misses a problem and he gets right after the 6th time of misses it. i got put in special ed cuz of my lack problems.
As an update to my dilema with my son and his grades ..we worked very hard with him to try to get his "C"s back up to "B"s before the end of the quarter.. however, it didn't happen... OK we can deal with that and move on from it. However, the last week of the quarter his math grade went from an 85 to an 81. I emailed his teacher to see what had happened..he got a test grade of a 56..everyone had the opportunity to correct the test and turn back in..given 3 days to correct it. He chose not to. Then, he had 2 days to complete an in class assignment that he chose not to complete. His teacher writes me to say .."I know you are frustrated with his lack of effort, as we are. As I look at his overall grades and work ethic in class, he is not working to his potential. He is capable of so much more! But we are seeing less and less each week. He is getting constant reminders from teachers, forgetting material when coming to classes, and not making use of his time."
I am feeling like I am at the end of the rope with what to do next.. I am setting up a parent/teacher/ student meeting but what is it going to take for him to get it together? I have tried everything I can think..changing his diet, punishments, charts, award systems... The only think I have left to do that I haven't is pull him from travel soccer.. which I really don't want to have to do because it is opportunity for him and his future. Please help with any suggestions!
Btw I was in no way shape or form calling your son dumb! But he is going to have to do the work if he wants to have fun!
How old, and what grade was he in last time he got A's and B's? I think it's important to look at this, since 6th grade, at least here is middle school, and the kids go through a huge social transition, and grades are tougher to get. Perhaps talk to his teachers as well.
I think it varies by child as long as I know our kids are trying hard we are good :O)
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- Erinn11
on Feb. 10, 2012 at 6:28 PM