what do i make of this?

[nikita985]

when your suppossedly best friend puts a timer on to see who picks up toys faster between her child and mine, in my house when she knows my child does not like to clean up and then accuses her of going to the bathroom because she did not want to clean up. in front of me.

please advice

nikita985 

[kmrtigger]

I would think she was trying to make clean up time fun.

[Barabell]

I can tell by your tone that you're upset, and so if I was in your place, I would calm down, figure out my frustrations, and then talk to the friend about the incident.

[Zamaria]

I agree. And my child goes to the bathroom to avoid cleaning up all the time. So does my niece. I don't think it was meant as an insult.

Quoting kmrtigger:

I would think she was trying to make clean up time fun.

[steelcrazy]

Having the kids try to beat the clock is a classic toddler/preschool clean up game.  I'm going to guess that is what she was doing.  Although by the time kids are tweens they should be quite capable of cleaning up after themselves without any silly games.

[STKsMomma]

I agree with the pp's. If your child does go to the bathroom to avoid it and you know this I wouldn't get upset. Now if they are tweens I would tell my child that they can go to the bathroom after the clean up or they can clean it up all by themselves! Normally that works for us.

[DropZoneMom]

Why did you allow her to make it a competition, and to set the timer, if you were going to be upset by it??

But I also agree she was trying to make it fun, by injecting a little friendly competition.    And when it comes to cleaning up, I don't give a rat's ass if my kid "likes to" or not.    You help make the mess -- you help clean it up.

[bellasdesserts]

How old is your child?  If a tween, this is a pretty awkward situation.

[jaxmybaby]

I think she was trying not to leave a mess in your house, and if both kids made the mess then both should pick it up.

[nannarose1257]

I say your house your rules.

[psych_mom]

Not sure I would get super upset, but if you don't want her to do it in your house let her know.