Help me out pals

[krithika231]

 I'm looking for a broad base of advice, so please answer anyway. My 14-year-old son and 15-year-old daughter like to rough-house from time to time. It's never very rough, but my son will occasionally give his sister hit on pressure points and even hurt her breasts." I know that he doesn't do it with the intent to hurt her; he just thinks he's teasing her. I've lectured him and have taken away privileges, and I've tried to convey to him that a girl's breasts are very sensitive, but he is not yielding...

Fed up, my daughter who has learnt self defence  asked me if she can give him a taste of his own medicine (and a lesson in sensitivity). She wants to hit him in the testicles the next time he gives her a bad pain. Since my "nice mom" approach hasn't worked, I told her that I would think about it. I asked my mom first and she told she is very proud of my daughter for her controlled manners and asked me to give the permission to do it with a controlled power and in presence of us. In her own words "girls doing a bit of soccer with boy's balls will learn them to respect girls".My elder sister also supported my daughter's theory. As she being a doctor she csn provide an immediate relief to his pain.   May I allow her to hit him (not too hard), and I'm wondering what you think? And what should I say to my son?

[luvmytwins2]

I think you need to put your foot down and tell your son that he shouldn't ever touch or hurt his sister's breasts.  Period.  End of story.  She shouldn't have to defend herself in her own home.  Your the parent... set the rules and boundries.  You should be the one punishing him if he goes against your rules, not her.  Maybe have a talk with him about why he does it.  He's not being very respectful of you or your daughter.  He's 14 so nows the time to teach him.  I hope it works out for you all.

[auroragold]

I think a more reasonable approach is to stop the rough-housing. At this age it is no longer cute and will start bordering on inappropriate.  Whomever STARTS the rough-housing gets punished. Period.

I personally don't condone PURPOSEFULLY giving him a taste of his own medicine.

[krithika231]

She did it anyway even b4 I decide anything. Just a backhand flip. But feel sorry for my son because that pain was really new to him.He moaned and she made him to tell her sorry.My mom helped him and told not to hurt his sister because she too can inflict more amount of pain. Also my daughter asked him to stop hurting her because next time she would reply him with a kick which will be  more painful.We gave ice to him and my sister really supported him. She asked playfully that she will ploy to get revenge on his sister but he denied it fearfully as he worries she will really kick him in his spot. So I hope it’s a happy end to whole story. Thanks pals for ur replies