My dd (10) likes to pull this I don't love her thing...At first it hurt my feelings..I mean she is crying and everything BUT it is mostly after she gets in trouble for things SHE knows are wrong. Last night happened to be taking (or trying to) a picture of her 7yr old brother getting out of the shower with her dsi. I had just told her not to take my picture...and we had this picture taking talk when they got them for Christmas...then she goes right up the steps and does this. Grrr. So I took it away for 2 weeks...she ran in her room and I am pretty positive deleted the picture before bringing it to me...although I didn't look, the intent was there...so I don't need proof I SAW HER! I even told her it was illegal...but like I said we have talked about this...
So I go in her room before bed and she starts this crap...at first it hurt my feelings (and still does) but this is getting to be an all the time thing. She says she doesn't know how to act. This coming from a perfect kid up until now and at school. But she all the sudden doesn't know right from wrong at home. She is so spoiled and she pulls this I don't love her thing. SERIOUSLY? I just spent hours cleaning and redoing her room last week for Vday (with her) but I don't love her.
Last night it became perfectly clear that I was not to blame on this. She needs to step up and realize what she has and it is her! Tell me I am not the only one that is going through this...Let me add this child needs to go into acting because either she believes this or she is an awesome actress!
Also it seems that every time she doesn't want to do something, she doesn't know how...such as clean, pass a test (she was a straight A student), eat right, not pick on her brother, not tattle....blah blah blah...
She just walked in here and acted like nothing went down last night...I swear to God this child is hormonal!!!!!! This parenting thing is harder than being a teenager!
I am right there with you! We will survive!
Quoting STKsMomma:
Hahaha yep welcome to what I call hormone city! My 10 dd is the same way though she doesn't say that I don't love her . She doesn't know why she does things, she yells instead of talks most of the time and can cry on the drop of a hat.
I am right there with you! We will survive!
OMG the yelling YES...I swear I tell her a billion times to lower her voice.
I say stick to your guns with the punishments. You're doing the right thing there.
I did notice when my son was going through hormonal stages that having long talks with him after he calmed down really helped. Hopefully you're doing the same with your daughter, and maybe that will help the situation too in the long run.
Agreed, she is just trying to manipulate the situation.
When I've been told this, I say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, it's not true. I do love you BUT you know the rules and you broke them so _________ is your punishment." then I leave the room. PERIOD. No more argument.
Does it always work? No. Do I sometimes scream and yell? Absolutely.
This is kind of how it went...I was firm and told her I loved her but didn't fold. I was for the first time not giving into the situation with hugs and all...I layed it out and walked out. I felt horrible but seriously it needs to stop and I just don't know any other way to go about it. Thank you for the back up.
Quoting Cindy18:Agreed, she is just trying to manipulate the situation.
When I've been told this, I say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, it's not true. I do love you BUT you know the rules and you broke them so _________ is your punishment." then I leave the room. PERIOD. No more argument.
Does it always work? No. Do I sometimes scream and yell? Absolutely.
I was just gonna ask...how old is she? She's def. hormonal. I go thru this here everday as well. Man, some of the crap I could tell ya!!!
Quoting Morrigan333:I was just gonna ask...how old is she? She's def. hormonal. I go thru this here everday as well. Man, some of the crap I could tell ya!!!
She's 10..well 10 1/2. This hormonal crap is mental abuse to parents. ugh.
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 6:59 AM