i have a chore chart system for my SD 12 and DD 5 its basically what needs to be done everyday for example
Sd is .....brush teeth 2xs.....read 30min....homework/study (if any)....shower....make bed/get bookbag ready for next day/lay out clothes for next day....Daily chore (sweep kitchen floor) and rinse all dishes and put in soapy water....and wednesday she has to pick up the dog poop and take out the garbage. All has to be done by 8 (except reading at 9)
DD is...brush teeth 2xs....read...homework....get ready for school in 15min....eat breakfast 15min....daily chore (which is my choice usually shoehallway or bathroom) and wipe down kitchen table/chairs.
plus they both have to clean up their rooms and take stuff that is theirs upstairs.....SD has to do her own laundry and put away...DD has to help with her laundry on weekends
if stuff doesnt get done they get an X. If they get more than 1 .X a week per item they get a sad face at the end of the week they are aloud 1 sad face each week. At the end of 2 weeks if they only had 1 sad face or less each week they get to pick a small prize from the prize box (SD hasnt recieved any prizes since school started....DD gets 1 every 2 weeks)
I have now added that if they have any Xs for the day then they dont get lunch/after dinner snacks the following day. If they have enough energy to run around and play they can take 5min to do their chore. But on top of that the stuff has to be done right to get a check.
SD is very lazy and does half ass at everything so im TRYING to get her out of that. Like last night she claimed she swept the kitchen floor (keep in mind i cant watch them do their chores everynight i have a 6month old and 2 yr old as well) i told her theres no way so of course she starts with the attitude cause she wants her snack but i said no its an X (i have given chance after chance for 3weeks now for her to get this right)i then swept the floor and got a big pile of kitchen floor crap lol so she got an X
I also have a star system that i choose how many stars for the month like last month was earn 20 stars get the prize (usually something $5 or under or a special treat out with me) i choose when to give the stars it could be anything from helping me around the house, to helping with the baby/2yr old while i cook dinner, to getting good grades, or being kind and helpful to someone else, getting good reports from teachers etc. Once again DD always gets the prize and SD got it once but thats cause i basically gave it to her (the prize was disney on ice tickets were bought so didnt have a choice) i guess im just trying to get her to stop being so lazy and actually try at life.
Am i asking to much? its not like i dont say/remind ok get your chores/stuff done....she wants to do her things on her time which is fine but have it done by 8 (which is bedtime for the younger 2) and its fine but she just wants to play play play....my DD is 10xs more responisable than she is half the time i dont have to remind her to do her stuff.
i didnt have chores growing up if something was asked to be done you did it. But also i have 4bros. and 1sis. im the only one who turned out to be responisble and not lazy and not depending on my parents and im the 2nd youngest at 28.
so i guess what im asking is am i asking to much? any ideas? and do you give your kids chores?