So my question is this....
Do you think parents pull the bullying card out way to much.
For example: "my poor dd, she has no friends and all the kids in her 2nd grade class run to the teacher everytime she does anything wrong. But she is so smart and young. They bully her because.... "
Or "this kid in my ds class picks on him and won't let him play checkers, I am going to run the the school and tell them this bullying needs to stop and if they don't..."
Btw both of the above scenarios are completely false.
But I am just asking, is it used to much? What constitutes bullying? And yes I know there are true cases of bullying, but is it every case?
I have noticed that we have several severe cases in here that involve violence and verbal bullying. I think that bullying is anytime one child is verbally or physically abusing another. Calling another child names, picking on their physical features such as their freckles or if the have braces, or starting rumors about them is all considered bullying to me. It is all meant to do psychological damage to the child and it does.
Honestly, I think the word is very much overused.
To me, bullying is CHRONIC behavior - not one or two incidents.
Quoting auroragold:Honestly, I think the word is very much overused.
To me, bullying is CHRONIC behavior - not one or two incidents.
This is how I feel on the subject as well. Thanks for replying before me Rora, you said it so much better than I would have. lol
Yes it is over used! Anyone want to know what real bullying is? I'll fill you in.
Quoting STKsMomma:
Yes please do. ^^^
Please bare with me as this will be long and possibly all over the place.
Bullying is not being called a name, not sharing or not being invited to a party. To me these are normal children's actions. Not every child is going to like every child and this is perfectly okay and I assure you quite normal(not that you didn't know that already). It is our job as the childs parent(s) to let them know that this is NOT bullying and is quite normal.
Bullying is something that happens over a length of time by a person or group of persons.
Bullying is being picked on relentlessly, called names, wrote about on bathroom walls, pushed,shoved,kicked and left with bruises. Being tricked, manipulated and tortured to the point that the child has little to no self esteem,is depressed,anxious,angry and contemplates suicide. Bullying is being walked up to in the lunch room while everyone watches and some young P pot calls your daughter a whore,slut,dyke,lesbian,cunt, and says I heard so and so about you louf enough so the entire lunch room has a good laugh. Bullying is tripping your daughter while walking down the hallways,tripping her while walking down the bus aisles,calling her phone and hanging up 15 times a day. Bullying is the little whispers your child gets while walking by. Bullying is being tricked into thinking a person is your friend only to find out this was planned and done on purpose to get you in trouble and make you look like a fool.
Bullying gets a child so deflated that when it's brought to the attention of the assistant principal by another student and your child is called down to the office to ask,"did this happen". That your child responds, "what difference does it make...no one does nothing about it anyway"
This is only the very tip if the ice berg and I know I haven't been completely clear. That's because I could sit here and tell you many stories that has happened over a period of 2 and 1/2 years.Not only that it gets me very angry.
I just can't bring myself to think about all of it because it brings me to tears. And if it brings an adult to tears, imagine what it does to a child?
Quoting Wyldbutterfly:
Quoting STKsMomma:
Yes please do. ^^^Please bare with me as this will be long and possibly all over the place.
Bullying is not being called a name, not sharing or not being invited to a party. To me these are normal children's actions. Not every child is going to like every child and this is perfectly okay and I assure you quite normal(not that you didn't know that already). It is our job as the childs parent(s) to let them know that this is NOT bullying and is quite normal.
Bullying is something that happens over a length of time by a person or group of persons.
Bullying is being picked on relentlessly, called names, wrote about on bathroom walls, pushed,shoved,kicked and left with bruises. Being tricked, manipulated and tortured to the point that the child has little to no self esteem,is depressed,anxious,angry and contemplates suicide. Bullying is being walked up to in the lunch room while everyone watches and some young P pot calls your daughter a whore,slut,dyke,lesbian,cunt, and says I heard so and so about you louf enough so the entire lunch room has a good laugh. Bullying is tripping your daughter while walking down the hallways,tripping her while walking down the bus aisles,calling her phone and hanging up 15 times a day. Bullying is the little whispers your child gets while walking by. Bullying is being tricked into thinking a person is your friend only to find out this was planned and done on purpose to get you in trouble and make you look like a fool.
Bullying gets a child so deflated that when it's brought to the attention of the assistant principal by another student and your child is called down to the office to ask,"did this happen". That your child responds, "what difference does it make...no one does nothing about it anyway"
This is only the very tip if the ice berg and I know I haven't been completely clear. That's because I could sit here and tell you many stories that has happened over a period of 2 and 1/2 years.Not only that it gets me very angry.
I just can't bring myself to think about all of it because it brings me to tears. And if it brings an adult to tears, imagine what it does to a child?
Agreed. I should have stated in my above response that a child saying something once or twice doesn't make it bullying, it is when it is happening repeatedly. That is why I used the word abuse, because to me that is what bullying is, abuse by one child to another.
Quoting auroragold:Honestly, I think the word is very much overused.
To me, bullying is CHRONIC behavior - not one or two incidents.
Quoting psych_mom:I have noticed that we have several severe cases in here that involve violence and verbal bullying. I think that bullying is anytime one child is verbally or physically abusing another. Calling another child names, picking on their physical features such as their freckles or if the have braces, or starting rumors about them is all considered bullying to me. It is all meant to do psychological damage to the child and it does.
Quoting psych_mom:I have noticed that we have several severe cases in here that involve violence and verbal bullying. I think that bullying is anytime one child is verbally or physically abusing another. Calling another child names, picking on their physical features such as their freckles or if the have braces, or starting rumors about them is all considered bullying to me. It is all meant to do psychological damage to the child and it does.
S/O Does your tween have something you hate?
- STKsMomma
on Mar. 2, 2012 at 10:10 AM