Well, I just typed out an EXTREMELY long bit and then realized I was only about half done. So I'm saving it for now, I may post it when I get finished. For now though, I need to ask a simple question.
What can you do when you're a step-mother, and the bio-mom is just a complete failure? I find myself wishing she'd just sort of disappear, and I know that sounds horrible, but it's true. I just need something, suggestions for how to talk to her? Or legal avenues I can take to get her out of the picture? The child is living with us now, but my husband isn't even legally her father. She has another man's last name and I assume he's listed as the father on the birth certificate. I don't even know how to get that changed? I just really care about this child and I find myself worrying about her every time she goes to visit her mother. People keep telling us we need a lawyer but we're not rich people by any means and we just very recently and very unexpectedly had this 11 year old addition to our household and she owned NOTHING, we've had to go out and buy her a whole new wardrobe, still working on getting her furniture, not to mention we now need a bigger vehicle to seat us all, and the house we were planning on buying in the next year or two? Well, it needs to be bigger now! Someone told me that you can get "family lawyer" for free no matter where you live but I'm not sure how much they'd handle or how to even find them?
Oh, and I know I can't REALLY get her out of the picture, I'd be happy with supervised visitation. I mean, as happy as I can be, legally. ;)