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Question and vent on appropriate Tween clothes - Update in replies!

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Hello everyone,

I have a question on appropriate dress for tween girls.  My daughter is 11 and is in 6th grade.  She hates jeans and anything tight fitting.  This is because she is VERY curvy for a 11 year old.  I'm only sharing this so you understand my frustration.  She's a 36C up top and wears a Misses 8 or 10 on bottom and fills them out.  I'll explain below but I need tips for how to keep her modest but allow her to dress in fashionable clothes.

We did find one brand of jeans that fit her well at Old Navy but they are expensive, $30 a pair.  I bought her one pair on sale and I do plan to get her more as I can afford them. Our compromise is that she's allowed to wear jeggings. Jeggings are like leggings but they are thicker.  We buy a size larger so they are not too tight (they fit like traditional jeans)  and she has to wear a long shirt to cover her rear.  So today she went to school wearing her jeggings which she has worn all year, and a long shirt with a half sweater.  Right after I dropped her off, I get a phone call and all I hear is Mom... then I hear someone yelling at her that she's not supposed to be on the phone. I turned around and went back to the school.  She needed lunch money anyway so I just made like that's what I was there for.  They called her down to the office and she told me that the gym teacher said she was inappropriately dressed!  She told her that her shirt was too tight (it was a little form fitting which is why she had on the half sweater but it came down well over her thighs and it was NOT tight across her rear.  The office lady said that when they wear tights (these were not) that the covering has to be fingertip length.  Her shirt was just above fingertip length but well over her behind. 

I'm not sure what to do.  I did go home and bring her another shirt after talking to hubby (who also saw her outfit and approved it).  I am very serious about my daughter being modest and she knows that.  I would never let her leave the house looking like a hussy but I want her to be comfortable.  She does wear sweatpants occasionally but she like to dress nice and trendy for school.  I don't mind as long as she is covered.  She can't help that she's curvy.   She's not promiscuous and not boy crazy like some of the other girls. I don't want her to have to feel self conscious when she goes to school.   This is why I wish we had uniforms!!!

Sorry this is so long and thanks for reading if you made it this far.

Margaret
Margaret
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:19 AM
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JuliaWoods99
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 11:40 AM
It's very hard to find appropriate clothing for our girls.


styler7
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 11:47 AM

 Old Navy has sales once in awhile on jeans. Kids are $10, adults $15 (I think).

If I remember right, they always have the sale prior to the new school year. That would be a good time to get those expensive jeans :)

 

ETA: I'm with you on the uniforms. It would be so much cheaper and easier!

emilyrosenj
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 5:47 PM
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OK ladies, I feel much better now.  The teacher was actually really nice about it, she just felt the shirt was too tight, I can understand that, at first glance I thought it was too but with the gathers and stuff she did look fine.  My daughter was upset because she was trying to do the RIGHT thing and call me and got busted for using her cell phone.  So what we agreed on was that if there is a next time, she will quietly ask the teacher if she can call me so I can bring her another shirt.  Happiness all around!!

lazyd
by Member on Apr. 13, 2012 at 6:52 PM

Yea, i cant find any good clothes for my daughter either.  She doesnt like tight clothes and has big boobs too!  She has "thicker" thighs too.  Nothing fits her.  I know she cant, but the school hasnt said anything yet, but she wears those "pajama" bottoms to school a lot.  We just try to find some that are solid colors, and not the ones with designs all over them that "scream" pajama.  My daughter also only has one or two pairs of jeans, cuz she hates that they are so "skinny" & she doesnt fit into them well.  We havent been able to find one store yet that carries things she likes that is cheap!

emilyrosenj
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:03 PM

I'll let you know if I find anything!

Quoting lazyd:

Yea, i cant find any good clothes for my daughter either.  She doesnt like tight clothes and has big boobs too!  She has "thicker" thighs too.  Nothing fits her.  I know she cant, but the school hasnt said anything yet, but she wears those "pajama" bottoms to school a lot.  We just try to find some that are solid colors, and not the ones with designs all over them that "scream" pajama.  My daughter also only has one or two pairs of jeans, cuz she hates that they are so "skinny" & she doesnt fit into them well.  We havent been able to find one store yet that carries things she likes that is cheap!


Margaret
SuperLooneyMom
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:35 PM
Well I don't have suggestions but I am 5ft only at 175 lbs. I buy my work pants at sears and get my jeans stretchable from walmart. My shirts cover down to my butt an cover most of my torso. Least to say I am very conservative . My dd is 5 yrs old and she must wear a skirt with her leggings. Even if she were wearing jeggings a skirt is required. My dd dresses or skirts must be below her knees or I get a dress bigger. Clothes are made too small for the proper size.
As for my clothes I go to sears walmart macys and old navy for my sweaters. I don't wear dresses and my clothes are bigger than they should be. Just because I don't like showing anything.
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fineyouguyswin
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:56 PM
As a woman still stuck in a small A I've never dealt with this hut she sounds reasonablely dressed without seeing a pic
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steelcrazy
by Silver Member on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:56 PM

I am a similar size to your dd, I get my jeans at Old Navy when they are on sale, they are the only brand that actually fits my curvy figure.  I haven't been able to wear juniors clothing since I've had children because that is when I got my curves.  Juniors clothing isn't cut to fit curvy figures, so she'll have to stick with the misses clothing.  I get a lot of my clothing at Old Navy, JCPenny, and Kohl's and they seem stylish to me.  Although a tween's version of stylish is completely different than a 40 year old woman's. lol

fineyouguyswin
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:57 PM
Glad the teacher was nice. Your poor baby must have been so upset.

Quoting emilyrosenj:

OK
ladies, I feel much better now.  The teacher was actually really nice
about it, she just felt the shirt was too tight, I can understand that,
at first glance I thought it was too but with the gathers and stuff she
did look fine.  My daughter was upset because she was trying to do the
RIGHT thing and call me and got busted for using her cell phone.  So
what we agreed on was that if there is a next time, she will quietly ask
the teacher if she can call me so I can bring her another shirt. 
Happiness all around!!

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fineyouguyswin
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 7:58 PM
Oh and if o ever heard someone yelling at my child I'd be pissed!
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