This is the question I asked him around 6:30 this evening.
His reply "far away"
Me: What do you mean far away? how far?
Him: I'm over 365 miles away
Me: Nick, what the hell are you talking about? You're kidding, right?
Him: No. I'm on my way to New Hampshire.
Well WTF WTF WTF WTF! I had ZERO idea he was taking a drive to New Hampshire. I'm beyond livid,upset,angry,ready to cry! He's heading to new Hampshire to see his sperm donor.
He didn't ask. Didn't even let me know he was going.
He said I figured I'd tell you when you called to see where I am.
Where the hell have I gone so solidly wrong?
No where in my post did I say I bash his bio dad. No where in my post did I say I flipped out on him. I saved the flipping out until after I hung up the phone.
When I found out he was driving I said Okay I'll let you go so you can drive. Call me when you get there and he said he would text me. Which he did.
He's met his bio dad before. His bio dad and I met in Utica when my son was 18. We met half way so Nick could spend a week with them. Did I like it? Absolutely not! But I did it. We then met again a week later. I picked him up and we came home.
I never kept my son from his bio dad,I don't bash his bio dad. It's not my style to bash bio dad in front of my son.
Yes he's an adult but his actions show other wise and no it's not just because of this. It's been a constant struggle to set my son on the right path. He likes to do things the hard way. His car was not fit for an 8 hour road trip. He has an oil leak,which left his car with literally no oil the night before. Had my DH not been on the porch and heard it knocking my son wouldn't have had a clue. His tires are not the greatest and his transmission bangs into third gear. He has bills that he is behind in that need to be paid.
Had he come to me I would not have flipped out. I would have said he should wait until his car was fit for a trip,had his bills paid and planned it out. He didn't even have the money to get there. His sister transferred funds to his account. His "uncle" drove there with him and don't have money either but will supposedly have the money to get back. I hope he does.
As for my comment about me going solidly wrong. That was in reference to him just up and going and not saying a word. It's about respect which he shows little to none of.
To the poster who commented about DNA. I agree. He certainly has his bio dads DNA running through his genes!
At this point I just pray he gets some safe. I know I will worry until he does.
Thanks for all of the comments. Even though I don't agree with a majority of them, I appreciate them. It gives a different perspective.