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Monitoring Tween Technology? UPDATE: WE FOUND PORN :(

Posted by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 10:32 AM
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  1.  Hello all! I'm thinking of installing spyware or similar technology on the computer to monitor my tweens activities. I believe she is using it innocently, but we can never be too sure. I do check her cellphone and the computer history but wanted to know how you all monitor tweens.

Any advice?

Are there any products that you really love?

Thanks in advance!

 

UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!

by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 10:32 AM
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auroragold
by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 8:34 PM
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We haven't resorted to that yet - and hope we won't.

Computer use is in the same room as one of us - -and it's pretty limited.

No cell phone

No Facebook

No email

psych_mom
by Stacy on Apr. 21, 2012 at 8:37 PM
You can check your computer history on the browser.
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styler7
by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 10:54 PM
We do this and we are in the same room with them when they are on the computer.

Quoting psych_mom:

You can check your computer history on the browser.
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Wyldbutterfly
by Christine on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:15 AM

I don't use anything to track my daughter on the computer. I know her passwords to email and Facebook accounts.

LucyHarper
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:22 AM

I just check the history every once in a while, shes knows that and knows that shes not allowed to delete it. I don't agree with spying on kids, gives a message to them that you don't trust them and I see it as an invasion of privacy. Mainly, we just talk, she knows how dangerous it is to go on chatrooms and things like that and knows not to give out her information, so we don't have to worry so much. The computer is in our bedroom also, so most of the time theres someone around when shes on it.

joshlor2
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:25 AM
We actually have an app on the iPad that allows us to see and check the family computer. They know we can and will check it randomly. However we rarely do since my husband had set up the router to only allow access to preapproved websites.
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QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:40 AM
What is the app called?
girlsclubmom
by Member on Apr. 22, 2012 at 12:22 PM

We use a free product called Canine that blocks certain content.

omamabean
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 7:34 PM
No spyware at our house. The computer is in a public area and they are not allowed on chat sites, Facebook or anywhere like that yet. Both dd's have email and I have their accounts forwarded to my phone. They know it, and I don't read anything, but I told them I was doing the forward when they got the mail to protect them from spam. There are times I have considered getting a texting forwarding thing from the phone co. to see what goes on there but I feel that would be like I am not trusting them and I have no reason not to trust them.
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QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 7:37 PM
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Question, why is everyone against reading emails and checking up on their kids?
I personally don't see anything wrong with it.
Maybe it was how I was raised. My mom worked in law enforcement and would check up on us all the time. She even monitored our phone conversations. I think it kept me accountable,
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