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Monitoring Tween Technology? UPDATE: WE FOUND PORN :(

  1.  Hello all! I'm thinking of installing spyware or similar technology on the computer to monitor my tweens activities. I believe she is using it innocently, but we can never be too sure. I do check her cellphone and the computer history but wanted to know how you all monitor tweens.

Any advice?

Are there any products that you really love?

Thanks in advance!

 

UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!

by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 10:32 AM
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lexi25
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 12:33 PM

Is the app available to download to a computer that can check my tweens activity on her Ipad. Her dad got her an Ipad and I have gone to privacy settings and have added a password to prevent her from going to certain sites but how about the sites I can't prevent. I don't want to constantly watch what she's doing but I do want to be aware or alerted if she is on a site she shouldn't be on. I constantly talk to her but I know there is a lot of peer pressure

 

QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 9:07 PM
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So, I wanted to let other moms know that a lot of the cellphone companies have great restrictions and monitoring tools. My carrier Sprint allows you to restrict web access, downloads, picture mail, text and voice calls to your preference.

I'm researching other tools now. I will update for those interested.
QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 9:40 PM
Also I've found a great spyware/monitoring software. It was even on Oprah's favorite things. Remember McGruff the crime dog? Well, he's helping us keep our kids safe. You can get a free 30 day trial and it's pretty inexpensive after the trial. Search for McGruff Safeguard software!
QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 10:03 PM
Here's the free trial code to try McGruff. "Friend Code 118932"
Barabell
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:42 AM

Thanks for that info. I haven't googled for it yet, but do you know if it's Mac compatible? It seems like a lot of the monitoring software is not, and so I just rely mainly on checking his browsing history and email.

QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:03 PM

 I'm not sure if it is or not. They do have a website!

Quoting Barabell:

Thanks for that info. I haven't googled for it yet, but do you know if it's Mac compatible? It seems like a lot of the monitoring software is not, and so I just rely mainly on checking his browsing history and email.

 

Barabell
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:04 PM

I'll check it out later. Thanks!

Quoting QueenCreole313:

 I'm not sure if it is or not. They do have a website!

Quoting Barabell:

Thanks for that info. I haven't googled for it yet, but do you know if it's Mac compatible? It seems like a lot of the monitoring software is not, and so I just rely mainly on checking his browsing history and email.

 


QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:04 PM

 UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!

emilyrosenj
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:53 PM

This happened with my daughter too.  She's is now not allowed on the internet without supervision.  She has a computer in her room but it's coming out as soon as I make space for it.  I think it scared her so bad that she got caught that she hasn't been on the computer since.

Quoting QueenCreole313:

 UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!


Margaret
bupkie
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 4:53 PM


Quoting QueenCreole313:

 UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!

Ugh....  sorry!   See, this is where monitoring really is necessary.  Time to matter-of-factly open up a dialog with her about what she is accessing on her Kindle, computer, phone, etc....    Where did she learn about these websites?  Did someone tell her about them, send her a link, is she searching for them on her own, and why?    

Sure when teens are growing up they are curious and want information, but I'm sure the internet isn't where you want them searching for answers on their own, or from someone else...  

This is where you get to give some input, rules can be implemented,  where she can earn back your trust, and hopefully this experience can be used to let her know that she can come to you with questions - and you can explain to her WHY you have the rules you have for her.   

(Try your best to keep all freaking out on the inside...  and communicate as calmly as you can with her on the outside.)   Then, later, when she isn't around, finish freaking out on the inside again!!!!!  That's perfectly acceptible, and encouraged in my book!!!  


  What if she didn't initiate the search for what she is seeing?

  • Bupkie..... 

  • ~~~ My philosophy on sharing info is that it's just free info (not advice) so please take it or leave it.  If it fits great!  If not, leave it on the ground and dance on it for fun!!! :) ~~~   thank you
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