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Monitoring Tween Technology? UPDATE: WE FOUND PORN :(

  1.  Hello all! I'm thinking of installing spyware or similar technology on the computer to monitor my tweens activities. I believe she is using it innocently, but we can never be too sure. I do check her cellphone and the computer history but wanted to know how you all monitor tweens.

Any advice?

Are there any products that you really love?

Thanks in advance!

 

UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!

by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 10:32 AM
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psych_mom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:15 PM
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Take the Kindle Fire from her and ground her from using technology except for use on school projects.

psych_mom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:16 PM

I can find out if my husband knows of any good software. He used to work in a school computer lab and they had Mac computers.

Quoting Barabell:

Thanks for that info. I haven't googled for it yet, but do you know if it's Mac compatible? It seems like a lot of the monitoring software is not, and so I just rely mainly on checking his browsing history and email.


megs424420
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:19 PM
Exactly this!


Quoting psych_mom:

Take the Kindle Fire from here and ground her from using technology except for use on school projects.


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QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:24 PM
Quoting bupkie:




Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.
Zamaria
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:30 PM
Uh oh! Have you talked to her about it? If not, is it possible that she may have just clicked on a link that took her to a porn site accidentally? It does happen. Has happened to me more than once. You click on something like "win a free...whatever" and it takes you to a porn site. If you're sure she's been watching it on purpose, don't freak out too much. She's probably just curious. I'd have a talk with her about why kids can't watch porn, fill in any questions about sex that she may have, take the kindle fire away for a while, and when she does eventually get it back, try to find a way to restrict her web access so that she can only get on the web if you enter the password. Idk anything about kindle fires, but surely they have some type of security setting for this type of thing!


Quoting QueenCreole313:

 UPDATE: We found out my stepdaughter has been watching porn on her Kindle Fire instead of "reading"! HELP!


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Zamaria
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 5:32 PM
Oh I didn't see this! What does her dad say about it? Has he talked to her? And how old is she? I can't understand why she thinks this is normal behavior! I mean watching porn out of curiosity, yeah. But if she's doing it a lot and going on hook up websites, that's different.


Quoting QueenCreole313:

Quoting bupkie:






Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.

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QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:11 PM
Her dad is sooo mad. We both got off work early. I had to make sure he didn't go psycho on her. She's so sneaky and secretive and she lies all the time. She turns 12 in June. I kknow she's interested in having sex but is too afraid to say it.

Quoting Zamaria:

Oh I didn't see this! What does her dad say about it? Has he talked to her? And how old is she? I can't understand why she thinks this is normal behavior! I mean watching porn out of curiosity, yeah. But if she's doing it a lot and going on hook up websites, that's different.




Quoting QueenCreole313:

Quoting bupkie:








Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.

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bupkie
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:50 PM

I think you are doing the best you can (and doing AWESOME!).... And remind him to remind himself what he was like at that age!   Girls have hormones... (and many hit much earlier than boys... so... really... she can't control at what age those hormones hit her!)    

Would his reaction be any different if she was a boy?  Even slightly?  Seriously... just let him think about that question for a bit... toss it around... (I mean, yes, at that age NO ONE  should be watching it!  I'm right there with ya...  but if you give a monkey a chocolate bar, and opens it and he eats it.... well... can ya blame the monkey?  That monkey had to be curious...   No, I don't condone monkeys eating chocolate either!!!   (BTW, I'm horrible at analogies.. so please forgive me...)  

Quoting QueenCreole313:

Her dad is sooo mad. We both got off work early. I had to make sure he didn't go psycho on her. She's so sneaky and secretive and she lies all the time. She turns 12 in June. I kknow she's interested in having sex but is too afraid to say it.

Quoting Zamaria:

Oh I didn't see this! What does her dad say about it? Has he talked to her? And how old is she? I can't understand why she thinks this is normal behavior! I mean watching porn out of curiosity, yeah. But if she's doing it a lot and going on hook up websites, that's different.




Quoting QueenCreole313:

Quoting bupkie:








Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.


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Zamaria
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:53 PM
Wow that's really young to be interested in having sex. How sad! I know my SS who is 13 has expressed interest in it, but more just questions about it than actually wanting to do it. Although he did ask if he was allowed to let a girl perform oral sex last year. Evidently she offered and some of his friends let her. It's a scary world out there, that's for sure. I really hope she gets some sense on this one! Prayers for you and for her!


Quoting QueenCreole313:

Her dad is sooo mad. We both got off work early. I had to make sure he didn't go psycho on her. She's so sneaky and secretive and she lies all the time. She turns 12 in June. I kknow she's interested in having sex but is too afraid to say it.



Quoting Zamaria:

Oh I didn't see this! What does her dad say about it? Has he talked to her? And how old is she? I can't understand why she thinks this is normal behavior! I mean watching porn out of curiosity, yeah. But if she's doing it a lot and going on hook up websites, that's different.






Quoting QueenCreole313:

Quoting bupkie:










Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.


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Zamaria
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:55 PM
ROFL! Monkeys and chocolate! Lol! I liked the analogy. And I agree. Monkeys like chocolate. It's just not good for them. Especially for young monkeys. Lol!


Quoting bupkie:

I think you are doing the best you can (and doing AWESOME!).... And remind him to remind himself what he was like at that age!   Girls have hormones... (and many hit much earlier than boys... so... really... she can't control at what age those hormones hit her!)    

Would his reaction be any different if she was a boy?  Even slightly?  Seriously... just let him think about that question for a bit... toss it around... (I mean, yes, at that age NO ONE  should be watching it!  I'm right there with ya...  but if you give a monkey a chocolate bar, and opens it and he eats it.... well... can ya blame the monkey?  That monkey had to be curious...   No, I don't condone monkeys eating chocolate either!!!   (BTW, I'm horrible at analogies.. so please forgive me...)  

Quoting QueenCreole313:

Her dad is sooo mad. We both got off work early. I had to make sure he didn't go psycho on her. She's so sneaky and secretive and she lies all the time. She turns 12 in June. I kknow she's interested in having sex but is too afraid to say it.



Quoting Zamaria:

Oh I didn't see this! What does her dad say about it? Has he talked to her? And how old is she? I can't understand why she thinks this is normal behavior! I mean watching porn out of curiosity, yeah. But if she's doing it a lot and going on hook up websites, that's different.







Quoting QueenCreole313:

Quoting bupkie:










Thank you for the wonderful advice. We did talk and I cried I couldn't help it. She just doesn't understand that this is not normal. She will be banned from the Internet until further notice. We can't trust her. I feel so paranoid. She doesn't talk! It's also hard because she is my SD so there is a distance between us already. She admitted it was her. She been on this site justhookup.com or something, I told her she's going to get raped or go missing. It's life or death! This is not a game, these weirdos start sites like that to trick little girls into going on there! God help me.




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