Last year my oldest SS (13) was caught stealing from our family. He had been taking money from change jars, bills he found in my purse, stole money from my 3 year olds room (she had birthday money in there), stole from a cousin etc. It was very upsetting and he was punished extensively and it seems he hasnt done it since.
Last week my youngest SS (12) downloaded something on his phone ( a game) that cost $9.99 I wasnt happy but he said he could pay me back. With what money, I asked? He said he had been collecting quarters that he found on the street? Strange but I told him to go get the quarters. He had over $17 in quarters. I was not happy and questioned him over and over about where they came from. he said he has just been saving up for a while. I told him multiple times to tell me the truth and he swore he was. I couldnt not believe he would find that many quarters on the street. I brought it up with my DH who also spoke to him and he swore he's just been saving up for a while and had some change from different things.
Ok fast forward- I had money hidden in a cupboard and on Friday I counted how much was there. It was 2 $20 and 1$5. I put it back in its hiding spot and left it alone. Yesterday I went to get something and noticed it was out of its spot and there were 2 $1 with it. I pulled it down and sure enough one of the $20 was gone and there were 2 $1 in its place along with the other $20 and $5. I was pissed. I questioned both the kids and asked what happened to it. They both said they didnt take it. YSS even went so far as to say he didnt know it was there. I'll be honest I thought it was my OSS because of what happened last year. DH said that he noticed no bread was gone from the loaf and that meant YSS hasnt been taking a lunch to school. So I called the school and sure enough he brought the lunchlady a $20 on Monday and bought lunch everyday.
I am beside myself. We dont even know how to handle this. I never would have stolen money from my parents or anyone and im concerned it could be a deeper issue then stealing (and lying straight to our faces).
I need some honest feedback on how to handle this appropriately.