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Would you let your tween go? **EDIT - UPDATE in RED**

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For a little background, my son and his friend--let's say "M"--have been friends for almost 5 years now. My son will usually spend one or two nights a month over at M's house, and my son has also gone on two weekends trips with M out of town. My son is 12, and M is 10.

Earlier this week, M was at our house, and he said he wanted my son to go to a paintball contest with him next weekend. His older brother (currently 16 or 17 and is not going this year) has gone the last two years, but M has never gone before. I asked for more information about it, and M told me that his dad was willing to take my son and M camping the day before the contest. His dad is not participating in the contest, and M said the dad would "check in occasionally" with the two kids. My response was that we might already have plans this upcoming weekend, but I'll look into it more.

The existing plans fell through, and my son kept telling he wanted to do this paintball thing. So I had him call M and get the website information. This is a summary of some of the rules:

- The organizers consider paintball an "honor" sport, but then they offer a prize of a couple thousand for this competition.

- Over 600 people will be in the event.

- No ages listed in the rules.

- At least two webpages pages said things like: no knives, no traps, no alcohol, no drugs.

So after looking at that website, do you think your tween would still want to go?

Would you let your tween go to a paintball competition like this? Why or why not?

Update: I realized today that I never updated you. I asked my son that Friday night what the status was with the invite. He told me that he told M's parents no because he would have to lie about his age, and he's not comfortable doing that. I guess there was 13 and older age requirement that I couldn't find on the website, and my son was unwilling to lie. I wouldn't have signed a consent form either with false information like that anyhow.

by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:53 PM
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emilyrosenj
by on May. 3, 2012 at 8:36 PM
Yes I would, its up to the parent to ask or at the least provide specific info!

Quoting Barabell:


Quoting emilyrosenj:

No I wouldn't if I had to search for info.

So you would say no just based on how my son was asked?

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Barabell
by on May. 3, 2012 at 8:43 PM

That's an interesting POV. To be honest, I don't think I've talked to M's parents in months, and my son and him usually hang out once a week. We communicated a lot when they were younger, and they just spend so much time together that I guess we just haven't found it necessary lately.

Quoting emilyrosenj:

Yes I would, its up to the parent to ask or at the least provide specific info!

Quoting Barabell:


Quoting emilyrosenj:

No I wouldn't if I had to search for info.

So you would say no just based on how my son was asked?


Saille717
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:42 PM

I'd look for something more age appropriate....this seems like it's geared more toward adults.  

emilyrosenj
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:05 PM
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At that age I always spoke to the parents even his best friends. Especially if he was going somewhere overnight, I need to know details, that's just how I am. Who's going, who's supervising., how long, where...

Quoting Barabell:

That's an interesting POV. To be honest, I don't think I've talked to M's parents in months, and my son and him usually hang out once a week. We communicated a lot when they were younger, and they just spend so much time together that I guess we just haven't found it necessary lately.

Quoting emilyrosenj:

Yes I would, its up to the parent to ask or at the least provide specific info!



Quoting Barabell:


Quoting emilyrosenj:

No I wouldn't if I had to search for info.

So you would say no just based on how my son was asked?


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kmh4girls
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:08 PM
My girls are 8, 6, 3, and 1 and I wouldn't feel comfortable with letting one of my girls go if I wasn't present.
kmrtigger
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:50 PM

Honestly, I think your son would be fine going. From what I have heard about how he acts, and him playing hockey, I am sure he will be fine.You have raised a very smart boy.

But he's your son and  if something doesn't feel right about it to you then don't let him go.

myboysRmyhero
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:54 PM
Yes he copuld go!
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momto3infl
by Bronze Member on May. 4, 2012 at 6:36 AM

 I would have to talk more with the parents on the whole thing.  Just because I know from family paintball can get crazy insane.  Then I would make my mind up then.

katiepolk
by on May. 4, 2012 at 7:55 AM

Id probably say no the pain ball thing and offer to bring them to play paint ball game another weekend and just try and find something fun for y'all to do this weekend. 

Barabell
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:47 AM

Oh, if my son was going, I would talk to them to get all that information. It's just not unusual for M to bring up the invite before we talk to the parents. It was that way with their camping trip and the weekend trip last year. At this point, the dad still hasn't called me. When my son went camping with them, I did talk to the dad and get all the details. Given that this would involve camping again, I wouldn't even know how my son should pack unless we talked with the dad.

It's possible that my son told M that he didn't want to go. I meant to ask my son about this last night, but we talked about some other things instead and it slipped my mind.

Quoting emilyrosenj:

At that age I always spoke to the parents even his best friends. Especially if he was going somewhere overnight, I need to know details, that's just how I am. Who's going, who's supervising., how long, where...

Quoting Barabell:

That's an interesting POV. To be honest, I don't think I've talked to M's parents in months, and my son and him usually hang out once a week. We communicated a lot when they were younger, and they just spend so much time together that I guess we just haven't found it necessary lately.

Quoting emilyrosenj:

Yes I would, its up to the parent to ask or at the least provide specific info!



Quoting Barabell:


Quoting emilyrosenj:

No I wouldn't if I had to search for info.

So you would say no just based on how my son was asked?



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